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My gf bj for me and i "shoot" 2 times in her mouth,the second "shoot" take after the first about 2minutes i think. She swallow all of that. After that,i clean up my wet penis(i don't know but it wet and oily) with water by my hand,and i take a sit,eat snack and after that about 5-10minutes, i touch my gf's vagina , i'm not fingering inside her,just touch outside. My gf can get pregnant or not??? ps:if my hand got some sperm,i wash it with water,doing something,and after 10-15minutes,i fingering my gf,what going on?
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yes,thank you very much for reply,i read that topic before and you know,i just worry about my situation and i need an answer to it. My problem is just not sure in my situation my gf can get pregnant or not. And one more please,my gf's hand got sperm and she clean with her pant,then she use phone,and after that 5minute she go to toilet,if she touch or fingering herself,she get pregnant or not? And if before use toilet she wash her hand only with water? Sorry for my complain,but i'm just worry about this,you know..... Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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Thank you for reading our post about pregnancy risks. after reading those articles, what is still confusing to you? Were you able to get a sense of what does and does not pose a pregnancy risk and figure out where your situation fits into that?
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Thank you for reply my dumb question,your website is the best. So,like i said i just worry about my situation.Here it is: 1.My penis wet and oily after i ejaculated 2 times in my gf mouth. And i use my hand to wash it with water. And i have doing somthing.After 5-10minutes i touch my gf's vagina(not fingering). The problem is i don't remember that my hand is dried or not and i worry about it. 2.If her hand got sprem and she just wash it with water after wipe on pant. And she touch her vagina,even if fingering herself. She get pregnant or not?
I think your post about pregnancy risks is great but i'm still worry and i need an answer for my situation.
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Nodding. I understand that you're still worried. Could you tell me which part of this worries you the most?
What did you learn about pregnancy risks from reading the post?
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Yes. Shortly,i'm worrying about the part i touch her vagina i don't remember my hand is dried or not.If it dried = no problem,but if it not? After all thing i do that i told about,does the sprem have chance to make pregnant?
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One more thing,please. This happened about 3 days ago. And my gf's period is near,if she have it on time or late some days. What it mean?
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As you read in the articles about pregnancy risk, pregnancy is only possible through contact between bare genitals or through someone ejaculating directly onto a vulva.
Sperm doesn't just transfer in the way you are worried that it could.
Here's an article that might make this clearer for you.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_you_avoid_getting_pregnant_after_giving_a_handjob_or_oral_sex
I think you're asking why your girlfriend's period doesn't come on the same day every month. For a lot of people, the menstrual cycle varies and doesn't last the same number of days each month. Bodies aren't machines, and things like stress, illness (even mild illness like a cold), or just random changes, can alter the menstrual cycle. If it's usual for your girlfriend's cycle to vary, then this is just what is normal for her body.
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Thanks for your reply. I'm just a kind of people who is "always worry" about everything-i know that but i can't do anything. I just need someone to sure with me that my problem is fine. Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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The reason I want to make sure that you're reading the articles and understanding the information is so that you'll be able to figure out for yourself, both now and in the future, whether there is a risk or not. After all, if we just give you an answer for this particular situation, it won't help you not to worry in the future.
So, how about you start by telling me if you think you have a risk here?
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Yes,now i'm know that "pregnancy is only possible through contact between bare genitals or through someone ejaculating directly onto a vulva." as you say. If i do that there is a risk,i think if i fingering her,in that case my finger=my penis,right? and to make her pregnant the sperm on my hand must be the same of the sperm that come from my ejaculation-fresh and wet,right? and if i just touch outside,the sperm can make it way to go inside her...? If don't have semen or too little of it,the sperm can't live or it doesn't have enough semen to move to her egg,right? That all i know until now Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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I'm not sure what you mean by your finger equalling your penis.
In general, if the semen makes any stops between penis and vulva, such as onto your hand, it really can no longer pose a pregnancy risk. even if there is a little bit of wet semen on your finger, it's unlikely that that would create a risk. It's a good idea, in general, to wash hands before touching someone else's genitals, to keep things clean and free of unwanted bacteria, but washing hands isn't necessary to prevent a pregnancy.
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I mean that penis is just like a "tool" to put the sprem into vagina and the finger is just like that(exept it can't product sperm). I think that we can use our finger that have sperm on it and put it into vagina...just thinking
And if we put sperm near the vagina or vulva,how it can move inside it? I mean if it can move,why don't go somewhere else?
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I'm sorry, thenumber, I'm not sure I understand what you're asking.
Are you asking why, when semen is ejaculated into or unto the vagina or vulva, sperm it moves upwards to the cervix?
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Yes,yes that my problem when i post the question. I mean i touch her vagina when her standing,and i don't fingering,i don't know if my hand got sperm on it,the sperm can move itself inside her? If it can,why it doesn't go somewhere else? And it can't like you said,right?
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You're leaping past something important here, and thus, landing on wrong conclusions. The important thing you're leaping past is that sperm cells NEED the semen they're ejaculated with to create a pregnancy, AND sperm cells can only remain viable for so long outside the body.
I'm pretty sure you didn't sit and eat a snack with a big mess of semen dripping off your fingers which magically stayed there the whole time.
As is made clear in the thread you were linked to right at the top, possible indirect contact like this simply isn't something we know to pose pregnancy risks.
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i'm understand it now.Thank you very much. I asked my gf about her period cycle and she say that her period cycle is usually 5 weeks and it sometime come late,but the period is 28days right? Why 5weeks? is it normal? if i want to know that she pregnant or not , how i can? because of her period like that ,i can't tell it late or not Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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No, menstrual cycles aren't 28 days for everyone: that's the average, which means that some people have cycles like your girlfriends, which are more like every five weeks, others closer to every 3. Those variations don't mean anyone who isn't that average 28 days aren't normal, just like, say, a dude who isn't the average height of men in a given country at 5'8 isn't abnormal nor has something wrong with him because he's 5'5 or 6'2. Make sense?
Sounds like your girlfriend knows her own cycles well, so she's the one who can tell you if her period is late or not. If she says it's not, she's the authority to trust on this.
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So,how i know if she pregnant or not? Like,if she does,her period come late or doesn't come?
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Like we also mentioned in that thread we gave you to read, the only accurate way to know if a person is pregnant or not is through a pregnancy test.
However, if it's not time for her period yet, then what you/she do is wait until it is. If and when it's ever more than around five days later than she expects it, then it makes sense to take a pregnancy test. It makes way MORE sense to do so only if she's engaged in the kind of sex which really present that risk, but even if she just wants peace of mind, she could still test then.
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You mean that whether she is get pregnant or not,her period still can be late,such as 5 days or less ? Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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Periods can be late for a whole host of reasons, not just because of pregnancy. But a period that is different from one cycle to the next by just a few days isn't really late: cycles most often aren't like clockwork, they frequently deviate by a few days sometimes.
But if she gets her period, then she (and you) can know she clearly is not pregnant. However, I'd hope that you can also recognize after these talks that if you two didn't even engage in the kind of sex that can create a pregnancy, you can already know she isn't going to become pregnant.
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Uhm....yes,myself don't think there is a risk too, But you know,worry is just worry,i need someone to sure with me about my situation. In my school,they don't teach about sex,and like you see,i just don't dare to do anything that i think "danger". You're my teacher now ) p/s:if we don't do anything can create a risk,and her period come late about 10 days,it's still fine,right?
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I understand: a whole lot of people don't get the sex ed they need, or sex ed that's practically useful for their sexual lives. That's one reason we're here.
Like I said, periods don't always come at the same time, and plenty of people have irregular cycles. That's particularly common for young people. So, yep: even if her period arrives ten days after she expected it, it's her period, and a period is what happens when someone did not become pregnant in their previous cycle.
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Thanks very much. Both of you are great people here. I just know many thing from your website.
And i just thinking that such as if her period is day 30 and we have sex in the day near it,like 28 or 29 and that make her pregnant,so,in the day 30 she still have her period or not,i mean her period is very near and it can stop in 1 or 2 day before it,right?
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Thanks for the lovely compliment, and you're welcome.
I'm sorry, I'm having a hard time understanding your question. Maybe it would be sound for us to first make sure what we're talking about. Are you asking about sex which DOES pose pregnancy risks, like intercourse? If so, are you asking about engaging in that kind of sex without condoms or other kinds of contraception?
Too, if you're asking if, when someone, for instance, engages in intercourse a day or so before a period, and a person still gets their period, if they can be sure they're not pregnant, the answer is yes. If they got their regular period, they clearly did not become pregnant.
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Someone isn't instantly 'made' pregnant, it's a process. Rather a sperm has to meet an egg and fuse with it's nucleus, then this fertilised egg (called a zygote) needs to implant against the lining of the uterus. This causes a chemical chain reaction which prevents a period (i.e. the body clearing out the lining of the uturus). So it depends on whether the zygote is able to implant against the uterus before the period has begun.
Two days before someone's period however, there isn't likely to be an egg which can be fertalised present, because ovulation (when the body releases an egg) usually happens much earlier in the cycle, around half way through, and the egg can only be fertilised within 20 or so hours. The timing needed for this to prevent a period would be another variable, and also as heather has said above, periods aren't always regular, so you can't always know what day of the cycle you're actually in.
So generally unprotected sex, and a pregnancy risk isn't likely to prevent a period 2 days before. But you never know, and this variability, as well as human error are the main reasons most people find it's a better idea to use reliable birth control and/or condoms (which also prevent STI transmission).
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:)Yes,thank you so much. I'm didn't told yet,english isn't my first language,so,it's a bit hardly for me to discuss what i want to say.
And yes,you told exactly what i mean,i just don't know if we have sex 1 or 2 days before the period start and that make her pregant ,then she can still have her period or not,because i think that her period is prepare to start and it can't change quickly whether she get pregant or not,if she get pregnant her period just can't stop.
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We get that this can be tricky when English isn't a first language, so no worries: we're happy to be patient around that.
After all, it's not your fault we don't publish and work multilingually!
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And like Jacob said,it take 20 or so hours to an egg can be fertilised. So 1 day is enough to prevent a period before it start,right?
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For a pregnancy to be a pregnancy, it actually takes around five days, on average. An egg being fertilized is only one part of the process of conception. If an egg is only fertilized, but then doesn't change a bit and then implant, a pregnancy still isn't going to happen, if that makes sense.
But let's make sure we're clear on what we're talking about here: are you saying you and your partner DID engage in intercourse, so you HAVE had a real risk of pregnancy?
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No.We did'n,if we do that i'm surely use a condom I just want to know more cause our problem is just 4 days before and it take few day to her period and i don't know that if the sperm got to her egg 1 or 2 days before her period start,it can prevent her period or not,cause if it not and the period start nomally,she still get pregnant,haha...just think abou it Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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Okay. If that's not something you did, it doesn't strike me as sensible to talk about it like it was. Let's stick to what DID actually happen, okay?
And if you two are talking about engaging in sex that actually DOES pose a risk of pregnancy, given how you're feeling when you didn't really have a risk, I'd say it would probably be wise to step back from that for now, until/unless you're a whole lot less freaked about this, you know?
I feel like we've said this as many ways as it can be said, but here we go once more: if and when someone gets their regular menstrual period, that's how we can be awfully sure they did not become pregnant during ANY of the cycle before, and will not become pregnant from any sex during that cycle, even from sex a day before.
If that's still not clear, maybe what you're missing here is understanding that a period is a shedding of the uterine lining. And that lining is where a fertilized egg implants. So, even in the case an egg did get fertilized, once someone is menstruating, there's no lining for that egg to implant in to create a pregnancy.
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Hey,guys. My gf has just start her period to day.
I'm hapy now! And please, one more time, make sure with me that even if we had sex yesterday and today she has her period,she isn't pregnant,right? Posts: 22 | From: UK | Registered: Feb 2013
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Can you read back through the posts here. I think you'll get the reassurance you're looking for if you do that.
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