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I gave a blowjob to a friend a few days ago and it was my first time. I was really not sure how to do it but my friend just said to try it and I did. The entire time I was throwing up in my mouth while going down on him but he didn't seem to notice. Is throwing up normal?
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While that was happening, was everything otherwise feeling really good? In other words, you weren't doing something like putting the penis further in your throat than felt good to you?
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While you'll get told that there's no "normal" when it comes to sex, if it wasn't something you enjoyed, or if it was something that didn't feel good, you don't ever have to do it again. In fact, you can stop in the middle of an act if it ever makes you feel uncomfortable, or say from the outset, "This isn't something I want to do, so I'm not going to do it."
It really sounds like this was something you weren't comfortable doing, based on that reaction. Perhaps it's "just" a sensitive gag reflex (which is really no small thing and really sucks to have activated, in my experience), but, again, you never have to do it if it evokes that reaction, regardless of why.
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So, here's the thing, which CSandSourpatch touched on: when something doesn't feel good, we stop doing it, or ask to change things up so that it does. We don't just keep on doing it because someone else wants us to. Especially when we're not talking about something feeling okay but not super-awesome, but something that's hurting our bodies in some way, that we really don't like, or that emotionally feels wrong.
In other words, if there's a next time with this partner or any other, and you try and do something they want, but it doesn't work for you, then all you do is say something like, "Hey, nope, that doesn't work for me. let's try it this way..." and then you try it however it DOES feel good for you.
In the event any partner isn't down with that? They're someone to get away from, not continue any kind of sex with. Because that's just the very basic regard all of us need to have with sexual partners.
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