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Hello everyone! I am in dire need of a good informational book on sex, and I would love recommendations- hopefully something that covers the very basics.
I've already read most of the articles on Scarleteen, but I think I need something more detailed. Sex has been very difficult for me to figure out. Somehow I thought sex would be more intuitive. Posts: 13 | From: California | Registered: Jun 2012
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Hi LianHua, How about Heather's recent book? It's a favorite among my friends, particuarly because it is VERY comprehensive- so regardless of the level of a reader's background or former knowledge, there is always something to learn, and everything is presented in a straight-forward and easy-to-understand way.
Depending on where you live, there may be a good chance of you finding a copy in your local public library!
Also, remember that sex ed in no way has to be a solo project for you! Especially if you are having trouble understanding things you worry are "basic." You can always post your questions about wanting clarification/more details about certain things here for ST volunteers to help you figure stuff out.
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HI LianHua,
Are you asking for books aJust so I understand what you're asking for: bout the mechanics of sex with a partner? Are you asking about intercourse, or partnered sex in general?
Sex isn't intuitive, but it's also not something we can figure out all at once. It takes getting to know our bodies, talking with our partners, time, experimentation, sense of playfulness, etc.
Can you say more about how you've found things difficult?
Here's a link to a list of books. In particular in this list you may find the Good Vibrations Guide to Sex helpful.
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Thank you for the recommendation, Claire. I forgot that Heather herself wrote a book.
Robin, I feel it's a bit embarrassing to admit since I am in my twenties and now married, but the truth is that my husband and I couldn't figure out how to begin to have sex for some weeks after we got married (even though we did express ourselves sexually before marriage). Now, we can manage penetration maybe half the time we try, and of those times, it's pleasurable maybe a third of the time for either of us. Positions and angles are tricky for us. It's kind of discouraging.
I am not sure about the distinction between intercourse or partnered sex. To be honest, I'm not yet comfortable in regards to oral or anal sex.
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Hi There,
When I ws asking about intercourse or other types of partnered sex, I ws just trying to understand what you were asking.
I think you'll find Heather's book, as wellas some of the books in the list I linked you to, helpful.
Are you and your husband able to talk about this difficulty and the frustration you're having around it? Will you be reading these books together?
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In answer to your question, Robin: yes, it is something that my husband and I do discuss regularly, and yes, we would be reading these books together.
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That's great to hear. Communicating with each other and learning the same information will be beneficial to both of you.
Do you feel like you have enough book titles to start with?
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