My bf doesn't have sex as much as I want him to. It frustrates me..am I wrong for this? I know he's tired from work but it stresses me out. Also I'm very dry down there well not completely though .. is there any way to fix this besides lube and how can I get him to want to have sex with me? Since I've gotten the depo shot my sex drive has been crazy.
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We can't really make someone want more sex, and we certainly can't make them have sex when they're not into it.
So, all that you can do here is accept it when he is not interested in sex, and not push it.
You also have the option of masturbating, so if you are feeling aroused and interested, and your partner isn't up for it, you can always masturbate.
Our libidos can fluctuate a lot through our lives (as you are currently experiencing yourself), so it isn't always easy for two people's sex drives to mesh perfectly. Working out a frequency of sex that works for everyone often involves compromise.
If you're not ready to compromise on this, then maybe it's time to consider whether this partner is a good match for you right now. There's no judgment in this: we all have our wants and needs in a relationship, and if they are not being met, we are free to seek out a partner that can meet them.
As for lubrication, hormonal birth conrtrol can make things a little drier, so you'll just want to use extra lube.
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