Donate Now
We've Moved! Check out our new boards.
  New Poll  
my profile | directory login | search | faq | forum home

  next oldest topic   next newest topic
» Scarleteen Boards: 2000 - 2014 (Archive) » SCARLETEEN CENTRAL » Sex Basics and Sexual Health » Virgin Problems/Curved Penis

 - UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!    
Author Topic: Virgin Problems/Curved Penis
girlygirl1
Neophyte
Member # 95365

Icon 1 posted      Profile for girlygirl1         Edit/Delete Post 
I am 19 years of age and my boyfriend and I have been together for 3 and a half years now. He respects me as I do him and we love each other deeply. We did not intend to wait this long to have sex, this is just how its worked out. We've recently been trying to have sex now but the problem is always the same: he cant get all the way in me. Its about halfway. It feels like hes hitting a wall and there's an intense burning pain.
My boyfriend has a curved penis. I've read that this is normal, however, his is curved upward, toward his belly button which makes it even more difficult for him to penetrate me. Im just looking for some advice on how to deal with this, we are both virgins and we've tried many times now without success. It has gotten to a point that I dont want to try anymore because of such a fear of yet another failed attempt. I lose sleep over this, Im ready now and its driving me CRAZY!!!

Thanks in advance. [Smile]

Posts: 1 | Registered: Mar 2012  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Saffron Raymie
Scarleteen Volunteer
Member # 49582

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Saffron Raymie     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
Welcome, girlygirl.

Here's some things to thing about to start us off with; when you engage in sex, are you feeling very aroused? Are you taking lots of time to do the other kinds of sex that you really love to do? Are you using plenty of extra lubricant from a bottle or a tube?

Also, when we frame sex in our minds as something we can fail or win at, we tend to put ourselves and our bodies under a lot of pressure, which means we may not be able to become aroused as much as we usually would. When we're fully aroused; our vaginas extend and become much more flexible, and the muscle become so that they almost seem to 'pull' things inside. When we're not so relaxed and aroused, the our vulvas tend to stay ridgid - whether it's the first time we're engaging in sex our the thousandth time. Does that make sense?

If you'd like to take a look at this article: From Ow to Wow , that might be a good starting point for us too. [Smile]

[ 03-25-2012, 03:33 PM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]

--------------------
'Obtain the virgin's consent before you marry her' - Prophet Mohammad (pbuh)

Posts: 1285 | From: England | Registered: Oct 2010  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Bleu
Neophyte
Member # 95570

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Bleu     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
I'm 49/female. Recently started new relationship and have attempted sexual intercourse twice - each time unsuccessful in penetrating me. I looked online for possible issues/answers and found your post (which is why I'm responding). He too has a curved penis but he says he was able to have intercourse with his last partner.... So now I have to wonder if the issue is with me, or perhaps still because of his curvature (up towards belly and larger/fuller at top). WOW.....
Posts: 1 | From: Maryland | Registered: Apr 2012  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
Heather
Executive Director & Founder
Member # 3

Icon 1 posted      Profile for Heather     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post 
Bleu: two times isn't a lot.

But in those two times, you both tried a range of different positions and angles? And you were also very aroused and lubricated and wanting vaginal intercourse?

--------------------
Heather Corinna, Executive Director & Founder, Scarleteen
About Me Get our book!
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. - Margaret Mead

Posts: 68290 | From: An island near Seattle | Registered: May 2000  |  IP: Logged | Report this post to a Moderator
   

  New Poll   Close Topic   Feature Topic   Move Topic   Delete Topic next oldest topic   next newest topic
 - Printer-friendly view of this topic
Hop To:


Contact Us | Get the Whole Story! Go Home to SCARLETEEN: Sex Ed for the Real World | Privacy Statement

Copyright 1998, 2014 Heather Corinna/Scarleteen
Scarleteen.com: Providing comprehensive sex education online to teens and young adults worldwide since 1998

Information on this site is provided for educational purposes. It is not meant to and cannot substitute for advice or care provided by an in-person medical professional. The information contained herein is not meant to be used to diagnose or treat a health problem or disease, or for prescribing any medication. You should always consult your own healthcare provider if you have a health problem or medical condition.

Powered by UBB.classic™ 6.7.3