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So, i've been sexually active for two and a half years before my hymen tore (and have been having full on vaginal intercourse for two years)

I was a little surprised when it tore this past Friday because I figured it was stretched enough/torn when I was younger and I was actually pretty happy about that. But right after sex it hurt a bit, which isn't very uncommon after i haven't had sex in a few weeks and then get really rough with my boyfriend. But when I went to the bathroom and wiped i noticed a small amount of blood.

I ended up having sex once more later that day and then again the next day. We found positions that went easy on my vaginal opening and did end up enjoying ourselves. (Also note that this wasn't him pressuring me or anything, just to avoid any sort of miscommunication in feedback, we both really really wanted to have sex since we'd decided to get a hotel room ad have a wild weekend and this had happened only an hour or so after we checked in)

My question is, about how long until I can go back to having the fun, rough, put-the-bed-through-the-wall kind of sex that my boyfriend and i like best?

(Also, I go to college about 45 min away and my schedule is all over the place this semester so he doesn't really visit during the week so the next possible time to have sex wouldn't be til like friday at the very earliest so i am giving myself time to heal)

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Robin Lee
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How long to wait is really up to your body, but giving yourself a break can definitely be a good thing. Vaginal pain and bleeding can be from friction. It's pretty delicate in general so having this sort of thing happen isn't all that unusual.

That to say that it might not have been your hymen (what we call the corona) but just general irritation. Do you and your boyfriend use lubricant? That can make the kind of rough-and-tumble sex you're describing much more comfortable on those delicate tissues.

More info on the corona:

My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It


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