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I am inexperienced and my bf is 2 years older and much more experienced,we have sex but he usually does all the work. Tomorrow i want to surprise him and i have planned it all in my head,when he comes in i wanna kiss his chest and work down but I'm not sure how. I am a good kisser , but I'm not sure how you use tongue while kissing someones chest. If someone could help that would be great.
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It's pretty much impossible for us to give how-to and technique advice when it comes to sex, because we all like different things. I could tell you something that has been awesome for me, and it might feel like nothing to you, simply because sexual pleasure is so individual.

What I can tell you is that the most important thing when it comes to sex is communication. Not sure what your partner likes? Ask him. Not sure how he feels about what you're doing? Ask him. He'll know, and he's the only person who can let you in on what works best for him.

Have you ever talked to your partner about how you feel on this topic? It would be a good idea to do that, as well, because here's the thing: while your partner may have had sex with other people before you, he's totally new to sex with YOU. And sex is completely new every time you do it with a new partner. Experience can teach you some things about communication, and about what you like for yourself, but it can't teach you anything about the dynamics with any given new partner - that's always something where you start from zero again.

So, I would encourage you to talk to him about your concerns. Experimenting and trying different things and exploring your bodies and pleasure together is a big part of what makes sex so much fun. There's no need to feel insecure or ashamed.

[ 01-06-2012, 01:28 AM: Message edited by: September ]

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