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I have a few questions around pornography. Okay so I'm at the legal age to watch it, go into stores and use sex toys on myself. I'm finding right now that masturbation is more healthy than what I am doing to myself right now- seeking sex.

I watch pornography to get myself excited and turned on then masturbate. Thing is, I've asked my Pastor at Church if it's okay he didn't say it was or wasn't just that it's a bad habit. I know that sex is a sinful thing to do before marriage, which I've done many times.

Another thing about the watching pornography is that I also told my Pastor about this as well, he says it's a sinful way and to stay away with it. I'm not hurting myself or others, well God I'm hurting. But other than that I just want to feel good.

So my questions are; Is it a normal and healthy activity to be watching pornography? Will it hurt me?

What I believe in doesn't stop me from masturbating or watching pornography because it's better than having sex, which I am doing, and trying to stay away from sex. So my question to this is; Can a belief like mine, Christianity, be okay with me doing this activity than sex? (I should ask my mentor in a e-mail)

Some more questions; I know masturbating is harmless in less what you are doing is hurting you should stop, right? Well, what if it doesn't hurt me but my religion? and That it doesn't hurt me at all but that?

Thank You

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Like we were talking about in another thread, while your church may have certain beliefs, the Bible actually doesn't say anything at all about consensual premarital sex. It doesn't say anything about pornography, either. (With masturbation, it only kind of talks about that, too, and the issue there is about ejaculation not being used to create a pregnancy.)

But this is a secular site, so if you want these things answered from a faith-based perspective, you're going to need to talk to someone who works from that perspective or do some reading from writers who write about these things from faith-based perspectives. We really can't address these questions from that perspective.

But if you want to talk about them in more secular ways, we can do that with you.

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Thank You Heather;
Like, I know it's healthy and it doesn't bother me so I figure it's okay to do so. At first it did and I confessed my sin of sex before marriage with a Pastor of my Church he was happy to help me and get past it. I'm trying to stay away from sex.

Thank You

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