I've been with my current boyfriend for about 8 months now, and the relationship is going awesome! I'm really happy with everything, and he is too. We're a great match and meet each other's sexual needs fabulously. There's only one problem: he has terrible sinuses. Because of this, he can't perform oral on me for any period of time long enough for me to be satisfied because the poor guy just can't breathe. He enjoys reciprocating oral sex, and I certainly love getting it, and it's always been our go-to for my pleasure because I find it's very difficult for me to finish any other way.
My question is kind of two-fold. I want to know if anyone else experienced similar issues (there are a lot of people with allergies out there!) and how they overcame them. I also want to be able to be satisfied in more than one way, because I hate limiting my sexual experiences. I've always had a lot of difficulty orgasming with a partner, and I really don't know why.
Posts: 39 | From: Misourri | Registered: Jul 2009
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I'm not sure I'm understanding everything here... Is he having trouble breathing because he is allergic to something on you, or just because he can't breath through his nose in general?
If it's the first, maybe wash with an unscented gentle soap, often it's the scents and chemicals that people are allergic too.
If it's the second, does he take any allergy medication? There are lots of available medications that can clear up sinuses for allergy sufferers.
As another suggestion, he can try mimicking what feels good with his mouth but using his fingers or a soft toy.
As to your second question (other ways to orgasm with a partner) have you shown him how you masturbate and tried having him do the same thing to you that you do yourself? If you like vibration, have you tried incorporating vibrating toys into sex?
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