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Hey all, any advice would be appreciated [Smile]

Ok, im a virgin and i've come to the conclusion I have a bit of a stubborn hymen. I've been trying to have sex for about 5 months now, but I always wimp out because it stings when I feel my boyfriend touch it. He can get a fair way in with a little bit of dicomofort for me, but once he reaches my hymen it stings and thats when I lose all relaxation and I freak out and tense up (Again, proably doesn't help!)

So I was wondering.. Is it best to just keep going slowly or to just bite the bullet and push? We have tried slowly, but it makes me feel very uncomfortable and sore. Is it best to just push through quickly? Or is that a bad idea? Should we use lube?

Im always soaking and turned on when we try, it's just when we come to actually getting through this part I freak. I feel ready and we've come so close before... I just need to get through this part xD

Thanks for reading and any help would be very appreciated [Smile]

Thank you.


[ 07-03-2011, 01:19 PM: Message edited by: SilverDragon ]

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Have you seen a doctor about this?

The hymen is actually not a "fair way in" (it's right at the opening) so I'm not so sure it's your hymen that is causing you problems. Lube can help. I wouldn't keep pushing if it hurts - it shouldn't hurt and pain is your body's way of saying something is wrong.

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[ 07-03-2011, 03:10 PM: Message edited by: KatWA ]

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Thanks for the reply. I did go and see a doctor a while back, and she told me it's because I was tensing up too much as I anticipate pain everytime we try.

But I think I know whats causing this now. It's the way im angling myself. We tried a different position the otehr night and it felt odd, but didn't hurt in the slightest. So yes... We think we've sorted it [Smile] He's going in and because im angled awkwardly thats why it's hurting me.

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Hurray! It's amazing sometimes how just a little change can make such a difference.

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I've has that issue in the past too, it actually dawned on me when I had a gyno tell me to ball my fists up and put them under my butt to make the exam less unpleasant. Applying the same thought to the bedroom, a little change in angle can be all the difference!
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