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flippo
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Do other people feel like this, or is it just me because I'm a paranoid person in general? I'm relatively new to being sexually active, but it's like every month I have sex I just live in fear until I get my period, even if NOTHING went wrong. I use condoms properly and I pay close attention to my body but every time I feel a minor cramp in my abdomen or anything, my mind says PREGNANT. Am I just crazy and paranoid, or is it good that I'm so conscious of my body? How can I relax a little?
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loststone
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Hi flippo.

It sounds like you're having some anxiety about pregnancy risk, would you say that's what this is? Are there any other factors that are concerning you?

If you're feeling anxious about pregnancy risk, it could be that maybe you're not feeling taking these risks is right for you at the moment. And there are things you can do about that: you could only engage in sex which doesn't pose a pregnancy risk, or you could use another method of contraception as well as condoms, for example.

Was that any help?

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flippo
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Yeah, pregnancy is my biggest worry, since my boyfriend has been tested for STDs and doesn't have any. I guess I would be interested in going on the Pill but I don't know much about obtaining it on my own. Is it expensive? How would I go about getting it?
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loststone
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Okay, in that case sounds like using another method of contraception is the best plan. Have you had a look at these articles:
The Buddy System
Birth Control Bingo

Do you have insurance? You should be able to get contraception from your doctor or Planned Parenthood (and if you don't have insurance, PP operate on a sliding scale).

(Also, FYI, Scarleteen recommends if you want to stop using barrier methods you should have been exclusive and have both tested negative to STDs in tests 6 months apart; so if you're thinking about ditching the condoms at any point, it's best for you to both get tested again.)

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Heather
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Flippo: just so you know, some states in the US also have subsidized programs for young people without insurance for contraception.

And if there isn't a Planned Parenthood near you, those aren't the only clinics around with sliding scales for contraception in many states.

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flippo
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This might be a dumb question but what's a sliding scale?
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It means that they're willing to charge individually based on what a given person is able to pay.

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AmityJane
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If you are worried about getting pregnant you could get a contracpetion injection, the coil or another more effective form of contraception that will be extra protection with use of condoms.
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