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Aqlexd
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Hey, I'd like to thank you for helping me in my other questions. Now, on to my question [Razz] . My boyfriend is unable to ejaculate, only recently has he actually had anything other than pre-cum. Last week after I'd tossed him off he had a clear sticky liquid slowly seeping out of his penis. He orgasms but can't come, he says that only with me does he get any liquid from his penis other than pre-cum. His hospital appointments keep getting pushed back so I was wondering if anyone had any idea what it could be & if there was anyway I could help him feel better about his-self with this problem. Thanks [Big Grin]

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How old is your boyfriend, Aqlexd, and, if you know, about how many years has it been since he started puberty (it usually starts with a full-body growth spurt)?

You say only with you does he see any liquid from his penis besides pre-ejaculate, but also say he does not ejaculate and is not able to. Can I ask what other fluid you're referring to?

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He's 16, & he started puberty 5/6 years ago.

We're not sure what this other liquid is, but it slowly seeps out & the amount looks to be less than 2ml.

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Ten is very early to start puberty for a male: is he sure that's when he started?

Is he having anything else at all going on with his body besides this? Any pain or physical discomfort with erection, sex or pre-ejaculation?

Does he have any other issues or health conditions which might impact (or do) anything around his sexuality?

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He's not sure, he said that was when his height started increasing.

He has tendon problems with his legs but he has no pain or physical discomfort with his erections, or in oral or manual sex (we haven't had intercourse) & pre-orgasm he's in no pain.

No issues or health conditions.

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From the sounds of things, then, chances are this isn't physical. By all means, it's always wise to check in with a doc, but it sounds like this may be more an issue of just not mentally/emotionally letting go or only just starting to find out what feels good for him.

Of course, if you also are seeing fluids, and it sounds like you are, he might also be ejaculating, but just be expecting something else. For instance, you talk about the fluid seeping out slowly: some people expect ejaculation to be really forceful when often it's not. It may also be that he hasn't reached orgasm yet, if he's also not ejaculating, and is confusing other feelings for orgasm. One doesn't always happen with the other, but if he's having orgasms a lot, but never seeing ejaculation many years into puberty and nothing is physically up, that may be part of the deal here.

Can I ask if either of you have had at least a few sexual partners before (male ones) to have any idea of what ejaculation can look like in real life?

In terms of how he's feeling about it, have you two been able to discuss why he's feeling bad about this and unpack some of it together?

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