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Pixiie
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i lost my virginity to my bf we are in love but i recently realized that im just not emotionally ready or moved on from past unhealthy relationships. so how will i know when im truly emotionally ready to have sex with him again? is loving him enough or all i need?

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Heather
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Usually loving someone isn't enough to be ready for sex with someone else, because there's a lot more to both managing sex well and to being sexual with someone than love.

Of course, sex with someone else is also about the readiness of both people, not just one of you. Are you asking about the partner you were talking about in this thread?

Also, have you looked into any counseling yet, like Karyn last suggested for you?

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my partner is ready but im not. i just want to be able t make better judgments, when i lost my virginity i thought i was ready but it turns out i wasnt so not to make the same mishap how will i know when im truly ready. i have considered looking into counseling but do i go to a counselor at school or a professional one?

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Either, depending on what you have access to and what you feel most comfortable with.

You could start with a school counselor and see how that goes, and/or ask them to refer you to a counselor outside school, or you could seek out someone outside to begin with. It's really up to you and about what you can get to, if you do or don't have healthcare coverage for counseling and what you feel most comfortable with.

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