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Nea21
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Me and my boyfriend have had manual sex and oral sex only.i enjoy them both.but the pleasure which i get from these both activities is not as much as i get from masturbation. Why is it so?? Does everybody face this problem??
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Stephanie_1
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Honestly, there's a lot of pieces to any type of partnered sex, and it's very different from masturbation. Think of it this way: You have a car, let someone else drive it... it may be nice not having to drive but it doesn't feel the same as when you drive yourself.

May be as well that you'll just want to experiment more, see what's a little different between the two and help him learn about what really works well for you.

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Nea21
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But actually i am not able to orgasm when we have oral or manual sex. I do enjoy whatever he does but i can not orgasm the way i do when i am masturbating.why is that?
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KittenGoddess
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As Stephanie said, partnered sex and masturbation are very different activities. Obviously, there's another person involved, who comes with their own body and set of emotions, etc. It's just different.

As also noted above, experimenting and giving it more time may make things different for you as you find what works for you and your partner.

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