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wordnerd25
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Hi. I'm a 19-year-old woman. I've been masturbating pretty regularly for a few months now, but I don't really get much pleasure out of it. I become aroused when a man fingers me or makes out with me, but not really when I'm touching myself. I've tried various things, but nothing seems to work. Is there something wrong with me?
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Karybu
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Are you aroused before you try masturbating? Arousal isn't just physical, it's mental as well, so if you aren't in the mood, it isn't surprising that nothing feels really awesome.

I hear you saying that you get turned on when you're touched by someone else, but what things OTHER than touch do you also find arousing?

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wordnerd25
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Yeah, I've tried fantasizing, watching porn, taking hot baths, etc. and it's ok but it doesn't really arouse me very much. I mean, a little, but not really enough to do much good in terms of masturbation.
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Heather
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So, the next question is this: do you find yourself sexy? Do you feel sexual all by yourself, feel aroused by your own sexuality?

If not, then this may just be something you need more time to get in touch with and to just develop in yourself, that's all.

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wordnerd25
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Well, I appreciate myself--I love my body and find it aesthetically pleasing. I consider myself sexy and am comfortable with myself as a sexual being. I have taken time to explore my body--sexual and non-sexual organs alike--and am comfortable and familiar with the way it looks and feels.
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Heather
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Okay, but do you feel sexual all by yourself and aroused all by yourself? Not just comfortable, but excited?

If not, again, you may need more time to get there. Or, you may just need to kind of cultivate your own sexual imagination more, bringing your own fantasies more into your head during masturbation, which for sure can include fantasy about the things you know do turn you on, like being touched by/with someone else.

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