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sweet_thing
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My boyfriend and I have been having sex for almost a month now and we both really enjoy it. We always use condoms and I'm on birth control pills. However, I still have a few questions/concerns.

Initial penetration is still really painful for me. I'm fine after a minute or two, and I'm fine if we switch positions and stuff, but we have to start off really slow. I don't really think it's a matter of me being unaroused. I almost always orgasm while having sex (which is great for both of us [Smile] ). But I was wondering if there's any way we can make the first penetration less painful? I don't want to have it in my mind that it'll always be painful, because if I feel like if I expect it to then it will.

Also, I've found that I always bleed a little after sex, and I'm sore for a good while, even in to the next day. The bleeding is very light, not even enough to be considered spotting, and it typically stops after I wipe myself once or twice. Is this an issue/related to the painful penetration?

Thanks!

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Heather
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Are you using lubricant when intercourse beings and adding throughout as/if needed?

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No, we haven't cause I'm usually pretty aroused and wet.
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Heather
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The thing is, having pain with entry AND having bleeding makes pretty clear that you are not likely as lubricated as you need to be.

And given that you're using the pill and condoms, that's not at all surprising. One of the ways the pill works is by thickening cervical mucus, which makes the vagina drier or discharges less slick and slippery. As well, condoms tend to require additional lubricant -- and not the human-body-made kind -- both to keep from breaking, but also to have them feel comfortable.

So, my best suggestion is that you first try getting a good lube, and then putting plenty on your vulva before intercourse begins, then adding throughout intercourse if it goes on for a while.

If that doesn't help, feel free to pop back and we can talk about other possibilities! [Smile]

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