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JosephineBhaer
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for one year and we've been having sex for like 4 months without any kind of penetration. We want to wait until I'm on the pill, but we can't afford it right now and we really want to do it. We love each other very much and I feel safe with him. We talk a lot about it because we want to feel completely protected and enjoy the experience, even when I'm on the pill he will use condom. We've been thinking about some alternatives and we're wondering if it would be safe if he uses condom and doesn't eyaculate inside me?

[ 02-22-2011, 12:39 AM: Message edited by: JosephineBhaer ]

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skiesofgreen
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Hey Josephine,

I'm attaching a couple articles on birth control options and possible bc pairings and their effectiveness. Why don't you check those out to get started.

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/birth_control_bingo

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/reproduction/the_buddy_system_effectiveness_rates_for_backing_up_your_birth_control_with_a_s


Also please know that while other forms of sex do not present pregnancy risks they do present risks for STIs. So if you and your partner haven't been tested recently you'll probably want to get in to get yourselves up to date.

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JosephineBhaer
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Oh, thank you very much! Of course, we want to be completely protected, so we're going to combine two methods, as I said.
In my country the pill is very expensive and I would like to ask a doctor about it before start using it, and that is expensive too. Maybe in a couple of months we will be able to pay for it. Apparently, the Contraceptive Patch is cheaper than the pill, and, according to the article, both are equally effective. I always thought the Patch wasn't effective, because, you know, it seems to be extremely easy to use. Do you have an article about it?
Thanks for answering!

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eryn_smiles
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Here is an article about the patch, it is very effective when used properly:
http://www.scarleteen.com/birth_control_bingo_the_contraceptive_patch

You can also combine condoms with the patch if you like. I'd be careful with using condoms but not ejaculating inside the vagina. Condoms are designed to hold ejaculate. When people use the withdrawal method (pull out) with condoms, sometimes it can make the condom more likely to break.

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JosephineBhaer
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Oh, I didn't know that about condoms! The cons of the patch scare me, tho. Maybe it's not the right option for me, because my period is not regular at all ):

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eryn_smiles
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Josephine, do you have access to a gynecologist or sexual health clinic close by? They can go through all available options, including pros and cons with you.

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JosephineBhaer
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I can't afford it, that's why I'm asking you, guys (: In my country those things aren't very common, sadly, so it's not cheap at all.
I hope I can afford it soon, tho.

[ 02-23-2011, 01:04 PM: Message edited by: JosephineBhaer ]

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