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I'm still a virgin, but recently my boyfriend and I have started doing sexual things. When he fingered me for the first time I didn't feel anything. I could feel it when he was rubbing the outside of my vagina but once he put a finger in I couldn't really feel anything. It might have been because I wasn't focused since my mom was home when we were doing it, but I'm not sure. It's the same whenever I masturbate as well, I get no pleasure. Is there something wrong with me? [Frown]
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May Day
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Hi there, welcome to Scarleteen!

Sexual responses are learned so it takes time to work out what sensations you enjoy. There's nothing wrong with that, it's perfectly normal.
With sexual activity with a partner? well, if you don't know what sort of touch you like, how could your partner possibly know? ya know what i mean?
I suggest you don't give up on the masturbation, give yourself alone time to experiment with what you enjoy and what really doesn't work for you. Have a look at this article:

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I have the same problem.

Like you just dont get anything out of that sort of thing. Sure you get good sensations from time to time, but never really pleasurable from start to finish.

I dont know why but I find it boring and no reason to try again.

Live, Love, Laugh :)

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Its not uncommon for women to have less pleasure during penetrative actions. I would suggest taking some time to yourself, exploring and see what feels better. It will provide helpful when you began to become more sexually active to give your guy suggestions on how to please you better.

Hope this helps!

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