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worriedabouteverything
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I would like to go on birth control but I'm scared for what my mother will say. How can I suggest it with out telling her straight up?
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Sara
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I would imagine this to be a tough thing to do. I've never had to do it, and now I'm old enough I don't need to ask. How old are you?

Maybe you can try to talk to her about reasons why birth control should be used. After you're into the discussion bring up the possibility of you taking it. I wouldn't ask her directly. Tell her you've thought about it and would like to be prepared and safe. Tell her you respect her opinion and wanted to gather her thoughts on the issue. And as your mother, you wanted her to not only know about this, but to be the one to help you as well.

When I was 17 my mother actually told me to let her know before I had sex so she could get me birth control. Of course, I never did (wasn't sexually active until I was 20). I hope your mother will be as understanding. Good luck!

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OWL Dan
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If I may ask, why do you want to go on birth control? Are you looking ahead and want to be prepared just in case a relationship grows and progresses to the possibility of sexual intercourse? Are you currently in a relationship, has it progressed to the possibility of, or you are at the point where you are ready for intercourse? If you have given these questions some good time and thought before you answered them, then how you answer theses questions and why you answered them they way you have will be a good foundation for your conversation with your mom. Have you read this article, Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist ? It may help you with answering my questions and supporting those answers while you are talking with your mom. Although I don’t know your relationship with your mom, I would suggest simply being honest, straight forward, and being prepared to support your answers and reasons for wanting birth control. Good Luck!

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lucidkitty
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I think it is wise to just be on it anyway dan, because often times people get into the heat of the moment without it there and i think if more girls were on it just because this would;d reduct the number of teen parents drastically.
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lucidkitty
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To be honest worried depending on your age and the state you can probably get it now at a planned parenthood yourself. Actually i think some states give the doctor the option of telling the parents if he sees fit, but don't think any require parental consent, but someone correct me if i'm wrong?
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OWL Dan
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Where I would agree that it is safer to have some form a BC, remember the pill isn't the only option available, I was mainly addressing Worriedabouteverything's question about how to talk with her Mom about it.

Worriedabouteverything, I think it's great that you want to talk to your Mom about this and I encourage to, if you can safely. She can be a great resource and help for a lot of things. There are other options available to you if you are uncomfortable or it doesn’t work out with you Mom. I don’t know your age or location to give better options, your primary healthcare provider and/or Gyn. are a good place to start, your school’s student health center/clinic is a good resource for referrals and possibly actual BC (Univ. or Colleges), and Planned Parenthood too. If you are concerned about your parents knowing about it, talk with your Dr. as to their policy on privacy and how they report it on the insurance claim because your parents may receive the ins. report. Otherwise P.P. doesn’t notify parents and works on a sliding scale based on how much you can afford to pay.

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lucidkitty
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Well in general dan i mean any type of bc from an iud to the pill.
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Heather
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(lucidkitty: Please try and keep your own wants about contraception or political ideas about who should use it out of someone else's post about their own wants and needs, okay? Thanks!)

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I'm sixteen. I would like to talk to my mother about it, just not too sure how she will react. I'm thinking that she will think that I want to have sex right now instead of just planning for the future right. I understand that you don't need parent consent for the pill or injection but I would like to tell her so she doesn't find out herself.
Thanks for talking everyone, love the feedback! [Smile]

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you could use the rationalization of it regulating your periods...a lot of girls do go on birth control just to make it easier to know when their periods will come and have less stress about that.
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