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RoundRay
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Certainly I would take advice, but gracious, I'd be happy just to hear if I'm not alone. I know a lot of people *love* masturbation, and it's really healthy both to know yourself and as an outlet for your sex drive. But it just doesn't work for me. And I've been masturbating since before I could remember, just only with pressure and not actually getting that far. Which was fine as a kid, I had no idea what it was. But I'm 21 and I've been trying for over a year to "broaden my horizons". But my biggest trouble just seems to be that I don't react to my own touch. It's frustrating. What gives? I went out and bought lube and gave myself an hour each day just to relax and explore. It's completely different with my girlfriend; I go crazy at the slightest touch from her. One time while she was touching my vulva I tried to play with my nipple and still, even when I was very aroused and relaxed, and right up against my girlfriend, I just didn't feel a thing. Does this happen?
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nessa13
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It DEFINITELY is the same way for me. So no, you are not alone! I try to masturbate, without expecting anything (because everyone says that pressuring yourself to feel pleasure probably does the opposite), and I just don't feel.... anything. Anything except discomfort and sometimes slight pain (and which point I stop). But when my boyfriend touches me, it's the complete opposite.
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Natalie H
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Some people just don't enjoy masturbating, or they only enjoy it a certain way.
For a long time I couldn't stand touching myself. It just didn't do anything for me AT ALL. But I did other stuff, other ways besides fingers to get to that point, like bath jets and pillows. Later on a got a vibrator, which is the primary way I do it now. Once I got the vibrator I found myself using my hands more and more so now I can use my fingers with ease. I don't know how the transition happened, but there you go.

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lucidkitty
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I mean are you doing it right....i know this sounds silly but often i talk to friends who are still unsure on how to masturbate.
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RoundRay
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Ah, this makes me happy! @lucidkitty That isn't the case, I've been reading and talking to people about this since I started high school. I just never found someone in the same boat as I am which just makes you really unsure about yourself! @Natalie It's reassuring to know that just because it's like this now doesn't mean it'll be like this forever. I've been considering options like that for when I (hopefully) move out this summer.
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lucidkitty
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Ok then [Smile] , well some people just don't get much from masturbation is all. If you have tried a variety of methods....then chances are it's just not your cup of tea [Smile] . And i agree with natalie get a vibrator, the Hitachi magic wand is a great one [Smile] .
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