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AGF
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my bf and i have been together for awhile now and we dont rush anything. so when we decided to have ssex we knew thats wat we really wanted. the first time wasnt as bad as people make it out to be. but lately, when we have sex it feels good, but after and sometimes the next day my lower stomach hurts. since i have not been with any other guy but him, i dont know other sizes of guys but i would have to say he is definately not small. definately not. but the pain is still there. its not the same pain as period cramps but its an annoying pain. i can still breathe and do daily activities but the pain is still there. why is this? [Confused]
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we have tried different positions, and sometimes that helps. he is the only guy i have ever slept with and vice versa so its not an sti and i dont have a UTI.
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Heather
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AGF: I'm so sorry this got overlooked.

So, let me throw a few questions at you first so I can do my best to give you the best answers here.

These times when your stomach hurts afterwards, BEFORE you have intercourse (I assume you're talking about vaginal intercourse?), are you fully aroused first and throughout?
Are you ever reaching orgasm, if not via intercourse, via some sexual activity at these times?
Do you experience this discomfort with other kinds of sex?
During the intercourse, is what you're doing feeling good? If and when it isn't, are you stopping the intercourse and then either doing something else, or just nixing sex?
Are you up to date with STI screens and your GYN exams?
On a scale of 0 - 10, where 0 is no pain, and 10 is excruciating pain, what level of pain would you say this is?

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yes i am aroused.
i have not reached orgasm, but i want to.
i do not experience this discomfort with other kinds of sex.
yes, the intercourse feels good, but yes when i do feel uncomfortable with anything, i do try another position.
never been to a gyno
2 or 3. its a pain that i feel but it doesnt cause me so much pain i cant get through the day.
sorry for the short sentences, my cat is trying to help me type!

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Heather
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Okay, so given the low level of pain and what you're saying, what seems most likely is that it's vasocongestion from not reaching orgasm. That won't do you any harm, just like it doesn't guys when they get it ("blue balls" may sound familiar to you: it's not exclusive to men).

But if you have never been to a GYN and are sexually active, it's time to start anyway, so you can also check in about this while you're there. Do you know where to go to get sexual healthcare near you?

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thank you for the help with this. i wasnt able to get onto the site for some reason and i sent an answer to the email you had sent me. i still haved reached orgasm but twice now have had sex with no pain. was it maybe a new kind of condom or position? ( i explained the condom thing in the emial.) i have not really looked into a gyno but plan to go to my dr as soon as i can and then if she cant help with that medical area i was going to ask her wha tshe would suggest.
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sorry where it says haved reached orgasm i meant haven't...
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i have had sex twice now and neither time had any pain. we usually use trojan enz but we bought a variety pack and we used the her pleasure first.....we both loved it. we jsut tried the twisted pleasure yesterday....he came but we didnt like it. one thing that did occure to me though is that depending on who is doing what, if i put myself on him rather than he make the first move, it feels better. he went in me rather quickly and it felt like it went pretty far. we still go the length of him becasue our bodies touch but something is different and better now. is it possible that he is larger than my inside?
another thing.....ive never had an orgasm with him. as much as the thought of masturbation grosses me out, ive secretly done it because i was turned on for whatever reason and he wasnt around to help me out. i just play with my clit and i have orgasmed. its an amazing feeling. i feel really good with him, just no orgasm but he always manages to. why is that and how can i change it?
this is alot i know but all these things have happened in the last day or so and i thought that i could just ask you. if you could i would really appreciate it [Smile]
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The boards are going offline shortly until the 20th. We can pick this back up when we're back online, if you like. Sorry if that leaves you hanging in any way, but our mail site will remain available and we will be providing referrals to other services on the main board page.

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ok. anything for my last post?
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Sorry this sat for awhile, AGF.

It is possible that your boyfriend's penis is slightly longer than your vaginal canal, even when you're totally aroused. It may also just be that he was entering you too fast, and having you be more in control solves the problem.

To answer your question about orgasm, I'm going to link you to an article that will hopefully clear things up for you. If you still have questions after you've read it, come on back and we can talk some more.

The Great No-Orgasm-from-Intercourse Conundrum

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The vagina is bound to be painful, thats normal. When I lost my virginity, I had stomach cramps, but may be normal painkillers will, and in another 4-5 days to address the doctor, I am sure that is how it does not sound like the guy was still too soft his first time.

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Karybu
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That's not accurate at all - intercourse should not be painful whether it's the first time or the hundredth and if it is, it's usually due to simple things like lack of arousal or insufficient lube. Please make sure you are posting accurate information in the future.

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thanks karybu for the link. it helped a bit. and also thank you for clearing randy up. sex should not be painful.
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