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graffitionyourbody
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I know PMS is normal, but I have clinical depression, and I get depressed and even sometimes suicidal for the littlest of reasons when I'm on my period. I'm on the highest dose of my medication. I don't want to suppress my period- it just seems unnatural and unhealthy to me. What other options do I have? If I have any, I mean.
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Stephanie_1
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Have you sat down and had a thorough talk with your doctor about this already? If not, that's where you want to start. Sometimes your gyn can help you find ways to manage period related depression, and it's different than other types of depression.

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graffitionyourbody
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I don't have a gyn, and I feel kind of awkward asking for one from my mom. She's usually very cool about sex related things, I just don't want to upset her about the depression stuff.
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Heather
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Parents who care about their kids are WAY more upset when they don't ask for help they need then when they do, really.

So, do you two have a good relationship, where you expect she would be supportive? If so, please just fill her in. Chances are she'll want to know and want to help.

I do want to say that while there are plenty of sound critiques about suppression, and I have made many myself, there are also some health conditions where it's really sound and smart. I'm sure there are lots of things you do in your daily life that aren't natural, and if this is a solution a doctor suggests as being best for your health, it may be more healthy for you to do this than to become suicidal, to be sure.

To give you another example of that, it's certainly not natural for people with thyroid problems to take thyroid medication, or people who are diabetic to have insulin injections: however, it's certainly better for their health that they do because they have those conditions.

Mind, that's not the only way to go, but it is one way, and it might be something to consider in your case.

[ 06-09-2010, 07:06 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Yeah, I guess I should talk to her. I have a very good relationship with her. I just also have problems with guilt and I'm afraid of making her upset. But I'll ask. Thanks for all your help.
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Like I said, bear in mind that it's very painful for a loving parent to discover that a child was ill or in pain and they didn't know or do anything about it. And when it's something like suicidal ideation, which could result in your death, you can only imagine how painful it would be for your mother to find out later you didn't feel you could ask for her help.

When parents want to be parents, part of what they want to be there for is to help you through the rough stuff. So, there's no need to feel guilty for asking them to do exactly what they wanted to do and agreed to do in choosing to become a parent, okay?

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I know...I just have compulsive guilt (comes with my ocd) in addition to my depression. I can feel guilty for not telling her something minor, and then I can feel too guilty to tell her something major. But I'll tell her once I get home.

It's like, I don't even have a real reason. I'm just really, really, depressed.

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When any of this is chemical, there usually isn't a reason: it just is in the same way that some people just have low blood sugar. It's physical.

I'm really glad to hear you're going to take a leap and tell your Mom, even though it's obviously hard for you. I think both of you will be glad you did. [Smile]

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