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I am 16 years old and i have been sexual active since i was 13 years old. Say what you will, it is what it is, but that's not my issue.
I am extremely.. extremely tight. Sometimes my boyfriend can't even get it in at first and has to start off really, really slow (and trust me, i'm not one of those girls who like it slow). and the more i have sex, the tighter i get soemtimes to the point where i have to stop because it hurts so bad (but that's only when i can't soldier it out for him haha). My boyfriend is recent and we've only been sexually active together for about a month, but we've been very active. He's 19, and i'm definitely not his first partner and has said he's never felt someone who's so tight, even if we've already had sex like twice that day, i'll be tighter the third time and then the fourth and so on to the point where he sometimes loses his erection in me cause i'm restricting his blood flow. Don't get me wrong, he's not complaining, but i'm wondering if it's something i should be concerned about. Please help.

p.s. we really only do it on the weekends because i stay at his house, but it's all weekend. And then the whole week after that i have discomfort and discharge. One time my inner labias were actually swollen and sooo itchy, but that was right before my period i'm not sure if that would be the issue. Thanks for reading.

[ 05-19-2010, 08:13 AM: Message edited by: misscouture ]

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I'm going to link you to a couple of articles that should help you out here. Feel free to come back if you want to talk about any of this.

From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse
2 years and 2 tight

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Can I just add to Joey's reply, that you should never have to have sex with someone just to please them, especially when it's so clearly uncomfortable for you, and if you've done it so many times in one day. If you trust this partner enough to be sexually active with him, you should trust him enough to respect when you don't want to have intercourse.
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Gingerbread, I don't think you are supplying the appropriate advice for what is being asked for. Honestly, that sort of commentary will just go in one ear and out the other, especially since it is irrelevent to her question.
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I appreciate your input, but why don't we let her decide if it is useful to her or not? This message board is for users to give advice to other users, and I found this important for her to know. Whether or not you find it valuable is up to you, but please don't undermine my input, okay? We want to promote a safe and comfortable environment for everyone.
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Just stepping in to moderate this:

As staff (including our volunteers), what we prefer is that any moderating that needs to be done with people's replies be left up to us.

If an OP has an issue with a reply someone has left, then it's certainly appropriate for that person to say something, too. But otherwise, if and when a post isn't appropriate here, we'll go ahead and step in and take care of that, and ask for users to let us do that and trust we know how to do it well. That helps keep side-arguments and thread-derails in our community to a minimum. Okay? Thanks. [Smile]

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