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kelzee
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Hiya, I'm new to this forum and I joined up because I thought it seemed the best place to get a mature opinion on a problem that I have.

Basically, I've noticed recently that I seem to have lost clitoral senstion.

It was about 6 weeks ago when I first noticed that things seemed 'different' during masturbation. It was taking a lot longer than usual and it didn't feel as good as it used to. My orgasms were significantly weaker too.

I still have some sensation left, but I only feel it if I touch the clitoris directly, whereas before I could feel all sorts of sensation immediately around it. As such, it makes stimulation a lot more difficult because it's hard to 'reach' the right area (it's difficult to explain)

At first, I put this all down to using a vibrator that I got fairly recently, so I completely stopped using it and just held off for a couple of weeks to see if it got better. It didn't make a difference [Frown]

I haven't been masturbating long, only about 2 and a half years (approx.). But before, I used to be able to get myself off quickly and easily. Nowadays, it's a longwinded process which leaves me unsatisfied.

I did a bit of research on the internet, and the general consensus was that this happened to people who were depressed/stressed or those that had gone through the menopause or had significant hormonal changes.

Well, I HAVE been really stressed out and down a lot. However, these aren't new developments. I've always felt like this and it never impacted on me physically before, so I don't see why it would just randomly start now.

As you can imagine, I'm getting really worried about this. I'm only 20 and have never had a sexual partner, but I'm worried that if I ever did get a boyfriend, he's not going to be able to do anything for me :/

If anyone has any ideas about what could be causing this, I'd be very grateful. Thanks for reading [Smile]

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Heather
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It likely isn't random;y happening like you're thinking: it's more likely something cumulative, where you're just experiencing this now, potentially due to changes that have been happening for a while.

If you have been dealing with depression, that is often a major player. At the same time, it's also common for people to find that after a couple years of the same masturbation technique, they need to mix it up a little. Did you feel more sensitive using the vibrator? If so, that may be a change that can mix that up for you.

Additionally, how things can feel when we first start masturbating can be more intense then than it will be later.

How sensitive the clitoris feels tends to have a lot to do with how aroused we are: do you feel like you're getting as aroused as you used to before touching yourself?

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This has happened to me before. It helps if I take a bit of a break for a few days or weeks to focus on something I can complete. I do art and writing projects and they often make me so focused, I forget about the fact that I feel discomfort or no pleasure when stimulated. By the time I'm finished with the project, I'm so overjoyed over it's completion that I really don't think about masturbating at all, but the next time I do it feels good.

You could also try dipping your fingers/toy in a bit of cold water, not too cold though, for a different sensation. Might work with warmer water too.

Hope this helps!

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kelzee
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@Heather: It doesn't matter how aroused I am, it makes no difference. Sometimes I'm not particularly that aroused and other times I'm very aroused. But the problem is the same in both cases.

The vibrator did feel better than just using my fingers, and I do suspect that using it has caused me to become less responsive to manual stimulation. However, even using the vibrator lately hasn't been as good as it was before.

@PandaBean: I've taken breaks of up to 1/2 weeks to see if it would help. I also moved all of my focus onto my unveristy work. However, it hasn't helped me at all [Frown]

Thanks for the replies [Smile]

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Heather
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There's no data to support that vibrators make the clitoris or any part of the genitals less sensitive, just so you're aware. The idea that's so appears to be based in heterosexual male panic about them from decades and decades ago that has been carried over.

If it seems like lack of arousal makes no difference at all, I'd say that's an indication your arousal levels may be low, period (or other parts of your brain are so low that your perceptions of arousal may be a bit off). Because physiologically, higher arousal will pretty much always equal higher sensitivity, so if someone is feeling no difference at all...well, something doesn't quite fit, if you get me.

Am I understanding you saying you have been depressed? If so, have you started getting any kind of treatment -- talk therapy, medication, acupuncture, etc. -- for your depression?

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No I've never been diagnosed as having depression, just I've been feeling low for a long time due to a whole host of different things. I haven't even considered going to the doctor about it because they usually just tell you to cheer up and get on with it.
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Usually according to whom? If you had a doctor who told you that, that doctor was not a good doctor, nor one operating within sound standards of care for mental health. Here are those current standards for the NHS: http://www.dh.gov.uk/en/Publicationsandstatistics/Publications/PublicationsPolicyAndGuidance/DH_4009598

Mental health should be taken seriously by healthcare providers and is usually taken seriously by sound, educated healthcare providers.

If you've been feeling very low for a long time, I'd encourage you to have a doctor or therapist investigate that. Not only could that be impacting your sexuality, it's also impacting a lot of your life, and if you do have depression, a host of different therapies could help you feel better.

So, my best advice is to have that looked into, and in the meantime, figure that if you're not feeling aroused, there's no need to try and masturbate anyway. If and when you ARE feeling very aroused, if it's somethign you want to do, do what feels good to you, experimenting with some changes. But if even then, it feels like a big whatever, it can be helpful to just take a break for a while -- days, weeks, months, what have you -- and focus instead on other parts of your life, including other parts that give you different kinds of pleasure and satisfaction, be that exercise of some kind, cooking, doing creative projects, taking in great artwork, etc.

[ 05-18-2010, 11:53 AM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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I am also experiencing loss of clitoral sensitivity. Mine started about five months ago. I used to wake up every morning and my clitoris would be very sensitive, either if alone or with my boyfriend, and this stopped. I then started getting severe shooting pains in the right-hand side of my clitoris - esp when aroused, but also all the time, and then soon after this I had numbness in the right side of my clitoris and mons pubis and some of the vulva near the clitoris. I also have been using a vibrator a lot (a clitoral stimulator), and I particularly liked to use it on the right side as this was most sensitive. I try not to use it at all now. The shooting pains I now only get when the clit is stimulated. But what I find is that it is not very sensitive to the touch (whereas before I could climax by my boyfriend just rubbing me through my knickers, every day) or to oral stimulation (I can come, but I have less enjoyment and it can take 50 mins instead of 5-15mins. Orgasms seem less powerful, and my enjoyment of sex is diminished. I have been with my boyfriend just under a year, I love him very much, we had an incredible sex life but now I find sex difficult as although my clitoris gets hard very easily, the sensation i get from it when it is aroused is perhaps 10% of what it was.
I have noticed a very slight improvement with phyiso on trigger points in my buttock, with not using the vibrator - and funnily enough, if my bowels are empty. If this was not my vibrator, what could it have been? I know this does not sound like a serious problem, but I am almost suicidal over it.

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I hope I can help at least someone...I just had a consult with a female urologist in California that specializes in female sexual dysfunction. She said my testosterone was low (it showed up as normal on the lab, but her goal for someone young (20's-30's) should be 45-120. She wants me to try compounded testosterone cream. She also thinks I may have pudendal nerve damage (I have 4 kids)/inflammation or stretching. I need a pudendal nerve latency test (which I just found out the closest to me is Cleveland Clinic, so not sure how I will get out there.) I did try Viagra, but it did not work, but she said that using daily Cialis may increase blood flow and help repair the nerve. She wants me to get my DHEA levels and free testosterone levels taken, since that wasn't on my basic panel. Good luck to everyone. I still have libido, and lubrication, but not really enthused about it anymore since I can't feel it, so why bother?
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Just to be clear though, someone in their late 30s with four births is a person in a very different place than our users typically asking about this, who are usually in their teens or early 20s and usually have never been pregnant.

So, for sure, hormonal and physiological issues are always possible with situations like this, but less likely than other possibilities. Hoever, it never hurts to start by seeing a healthcare provider to rule physical possibilities out.

helen_louise_33 : I did not see your post, or I would have responded by now. For starters, whether it;'s because of this or something else, if you are feeling suicidal, please seek out help from a mental healthcare professional okay?

But again, vibrators are simply not, and never have been, associated with anything but temporary changes in sensitivity, and if and when changes are about them, just moving away from them and using them less and learning others ways to sexually stimulate usually is the solution.

But if you are having shooting pains and numbness, I'd see a sexual healthcare professional. It may be, for instance, you have a glandular infection around your clitoris that is creating these issues. So, I'd say you want to start with a healthcare provider, okay?

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