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I'm a girl, I'm sexually active and I enjoy masturbating. My problem is that I grew up in a semi-conservative community and my friends looked down on anyone who was sexually active and would say how masturbation was gross.
So now after I orgasm I immediately get a sense of guilt. And when I go to wash my hands I can't even look at myself in the mirror.
How do I get over this feeling? I've tried telling myself over and over that its normal but that never works. [Frown]

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Well, I'm a guy, and when I first started masturbating, back in januray, I did feel some guilt. but after I started doing it for awhile, I got kinda use to it. I still feel a little guilt, but masturbation is a great way to learn about what pleases you, and what you like.
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You should never feel guilty about something that makes you feel good. Do you feel guilty after eating your favorite food, listen to your favorite song, or do other things that make you happy? I sure hope not! Think of masturbation as just another of those favorite things. Something that relaxes you, and makes you feel good. And helps you get to know your body, so that you can be an informed partner later. You're just taking care of yourself and your body, just like if you were exercising, and that is nothing to be ashamed of.
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These feelings of guilt indicate that you need an outlet to verbalize your feelings about the situation; either to your parents, a friend, or even your priest. That is a very common feeling. While in some cases it's the result of religious convictions, more likely it's the natural result of the way we're brought up, in addition to actual scientific and biological hormonal reasons.

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It's your body and there's nothing wrong with you enjoying it, keep reminding yourself that there's nothing wrong with it and there's a good chance your thoughts will change. Remember that you matter and that it's good for you to have pleasure.

Hudman, I don't know of any solid study proving that we have a genetic tendency to feel guilt after masturbation, whether because we are of one particular gender or because we are of this species.

Always knock before entering my room when I am in there alone, as I may be doing all sorts of wonderfully thrilling things that I'd rather you didn't see.

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Thanks for all the advice guys [Big Grin]

@Hudman, I think it has a lot to do with the way I was brought up. But about what you said with it being genetic, I've always wondered if my guilt had to do with some kind of hormone or endorphin or some kind of chemical release that just made everything feel wrong in my brain. Is that possible?

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Guilt isn't chemical or genetic, it's a learned behavior/thought pattern.

However, after orgasm or even during any kind of sex -- including masturbation -- we can certainly tend to be more emotionally open and vulnerable, and chemically tend to be both more relaxed (post-orgasm) or high-hey (before/during), so feelings like guilt can hit harder.

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