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Yesman
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Hey,
recently i fingered my girlfriend. Everything was perfect and awesome for her, but she said it would hurt a little bit sometimes. Wat does this mean ? Am i doin somethin wrong ?

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matthew101
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if this is your first time, (and im obviously im not a doctor so im no expert,) but try getting more imput from her next time (if there is one,) like what feels good? what do I do that causes those pains? you didnt specify so im assuming all you know is that it "hurt". that way, you can refine your methods to better pleasure her based on her own preferences. youre not doing anything wrong, and there is no "right or wrong" way, shes just unique, and thats true for everyone. its a learning experience
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Yesman
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Yea I see. It was my first time and when I asked her she did say that everything was awesome, but it would just hurt randomly. But next time I must find out exactly when it is hurting so I know what is hurting her.
Yesterday I fingered her again and she said it felt better. But when i tried two fingers she told me it hurt, obviously I had discussed trying two fingers with her before. She said it feels like something that is tight is being stretched ?
As with the arousal part of things, I'm sure she is very aroused because she is very wet and we do get turned on by eachother. But it might be a factor of nervs maybe because we aren't in a TOTALLY private area.

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Jill2000Plus
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You can always stick to one finger for now if two is too much for her. What do you mean by "not a totally private area"?

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Smiley64
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Though this may not be the cause of the pain, it's always a good idea to keep your hands clean, and nails clipped, to help prevent any scratching. Wearing latex gloves is another option to accomplish the same purpose.
Nerves very well could be causing some of the pain, because being completely relaxed is another key factor for making the experience enjoyable, instead of tense and painful.

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Yesman
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We've been very relaxed together when we do this, but then again I'm not her so I dont know what she is feeling.
And I do cut my nails very often now that I've been doing such things with her. But I guess i could try keep them less sharp.
My one friend that is already having sex and everything (it's a girl) she says that my girlfriend just isn't used to having someone else finger her. And that after a while she'l start craving the pain ?

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About what your friend said:

She probably won't start enjoying the pain (unless she's into that - which MOST people aren't) but if you two keep doing it and talking to eachother - you'll probably figure out how to do it so it feels good and doesn't hurt.

Have fun and keep talking. [Wink]

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