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evilstrawberry
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So today my boyfriend and I went to boston, and happened to visit a few a-ahem- adult stores. After some recent talking we figured it would be fun to look at toys for me, so in we went. Well obviously, I was hesitant, seeing as I didnt want to pay any sizable amount of money for something awkward that would potentially be useless/unsatisfying/unreturnable. I tend to try to do my research before buying anything.

But after feeling a little pressured (like, if I don't do it now i wont get another chance for a while... :-/ ) I did end up getting something, figuring, what the heck. And now, I feel really stupid. Because me, the soon-to-be environmental science major, bought a PVC dildo, which is greasy and smelly and makes me not even want to take it out of the package again, let alone use it. Every site I've read has warned against the toxic, cancer-causing chemicals in PVC products (which I already knew about!) and I don't even know if this thing is worth keeping in my possession. I didnt pay that much for it, less than $20 (which may have been a mistake to begin with) but I feel like that was a waste and I regret feeling pressured/embarrassed enough to have so rashly bought it without thinking of something so obvious.

Is there a good course of action to make this somehow worth it or should i ditch the thing

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vshanti
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My personal advice? Ditch it. I wouldn't want to put anything inside me that contains phthalates because it smells like plastic/chemicals and might leach toxins. If you do decide to use it, though, I'd recommend using a condom. [Smile]

Next time you're at the sex toy store, check out toys made of elastomer, silicone, stainless steel or glass. Those aren't made with phthalates.

PS: I don't think you're stupid!

[ 08-23-2009, 03:38 AM: Message edited by: vshanti ]

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evilstrawberry
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Would using a condom eliminate most of the risks/ negatives of the phthalates? And is hot water and soap sufficent for cleaning? (even though they cant be sterilized)
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KittenGoddess
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By the by...if you do decide to get rid of it and it cannot be returned, there apparently is a new program where you can actually recycle sex toys in the US. I've read about it on several news outlets and it seems legit.

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vshanti
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Hi evilstrawberry,

There is no conclusive evidence saying that a condom will absolutely 100% protect you from all risks. It would depend on other factors, like the thickness of the latex, if it's a new condom, whether added lubricants or spermicides might increase the risk. The fact is that no one knows. I think it's safe to assume that using condoms will lessen the risk, but not that it will eliminate them completely.

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evilstrawberry
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Hmm ok. Well I put a condom on it and I could still smell it, so I figure that's not a good sign. And @KittenGoddess, that looks like a pretty awesome program. I think I'll put it to good use and recycle the toxic toy and put the 10 bucks gift card towards a safer upgrade lol.

Thanks to the both of you =)

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vshanti
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I agree, KittenGoddess' suggestion is great! Good luck with the toy & I wish you all the best [Smile]

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