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Peach7262
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Ok, so I've never had an orgasm before. I masturbate regularly and everything, I've just never reached that point I guess.

Is it possible to not be used to the intensity and sensation of an orgasm, and at first find it too much?

My boyfriend was fingering me yesterday, and it felt good but also extremely intense, more than I'm used to and not necessarily in the most pleasant way. I found myself thinking too much and made him stop. He thought he was hurting me, so he obviously did but I tried to explain that I think I liked it, I just wasn't used to that....

Does that make any sense? Can that happen?

thanks [Smile]

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Well, we might be talking about two different things, or even two things at the same time.

For one, absolutely with an area of the body as full of sensory nerves as the clitoris and surrounding areas, some ways of touching can feel like too much. You can be oversensitive in some areas or ways that this way of touching or that, or going at a given way for too long, can just leave you feeling hypersensitive.

As well, sometimes orgasm or getting near orgasm CAN be very intense and can feel like "too much." Now, after orgasm, it's very typical to feel hypersensitive if activity continues without a break or a switch to another kind of stimulation, so it's possible someone feeling that way may have already reached orgasm. But getting near orgasm can also feel that way sometimes.

One of those things could have been happening, or more than one.

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ok, thanks so much!
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Can you figure out with this, how a lot of that is just about communication? if not, happy to help.

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I think I was thinking a little too much, but your information just makes me a little more aware of the sensitivity of my body. I think a little bit of the first might have been happening, like maybe he hit a spot where it really did feel like too much, but it also just could have been that I wasn't used to the intensity of the beginnings of an orgasm. I'm not totally sure, but next time I'll know so that I can communicate what I feel that much better [Smile]
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