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I hear people talking about "sex" and "foreplay" all the time, and often I have to ask how they define those terms. Where does "foreplay" turn into "sex"?

Where do you draw the line between them?

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Foreplay is sex.

The more likely reason why some people differenciate foreplay from sex is because their definition of sex is intercourse but sex is much more than that and includes other types of sex such as oral and manual, it isn't intercourse only.

I personnally therefore don't draw a line between sex and foreplay because to me foreplay is sex.

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When foreplay and sex are defined together, usually foreplay is anything other than sexual intercourse. This of course does not mean that foreplay is not real sex- because it is.

Traditionally foreplay can be making out, oral sex, mutual masturbation, etc. used to arouse and to get ready for the "actual" sex (which at this point it should be realized that there can be much more to sex than just intercourse).

'Foreplay' is not really a good term at all. The acts of foreplay can be done through out the whole sexual encounter, not just before having intercourse. It can be before, after, during, or whatever. Also, it can be the only thing you do, it doesn't have to be solely done to lead up to intercourse.

As for the line, there truly isn't one. You can define foreplay as you like it, or just abandon the term completely. Essentially, foreplay is sex, therefore they are very much one and itself.

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I was talking to a friend about this last night.. She defined it as everything meant to get you horny is foreplay and everything meant to get you off is sex. I kinda liked her definition^^
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I honestly, when we're talking about physical activities, have never been able to figure out how people draw a line between "foreplay" and sex. Mind, I'm older than the users here, my partners have been of all genders, and my experiences tend to be more vast than many of our users, but still. I just view sex in a very holistic and broad way, a view that doesn't lend itself well to ideas like foreplay.

Personally, if I'm talking about foreplay, for myself, I tend to be talking about things which are more intellectual or social than anything else. In other words, the kind of stuff that happens BEFORE any physical touching: talking, for instance, how time is spent before any physical contact begins, etc.

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