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misskitty_79
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Okay, so my boyfriend & I have been together for nearly 4 years now & we've always used a condom before, but recently, we've been using them less (we live together & haven't been involved with anyone other than each other for a while now, plus I'm on the pill, it's just starting to seem like a waste of money, you know).
Anyhoo, I'd never really noticed it before, but my boyfriend doesn't pull his foreskin down off the head of his penis. I tried to once while giving him head & he stopped me, so I figured it was just a preference thing, but recently, when we're having sex & things are a little, um, enthusiastic? & it does start to get pushed down, he'll make us stop, so he can pull it back up & over his glans.
It makes me think that it's kinda like a really tight turtleneck that doesn't really fit & I'm wondering if something's kinda wrong. I mean, obviously it's annoying to have to stop so he can roll it back up & I guess that's the only time it ever really affects me, but I wonder, you know?
If there is something wrong, should I tell him? He doesn't seem to think there is, but then, it's not like he's had a whole lot of penises to compare himself to/see that he's all that different, you know?

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Phimosis is the inability to retract the foreskin. Is he unable to retract it or does he prefer not to have it retracted?

If he cannot fully retract it, or it is painful for him to do so, then he should probably be seen by a doctor. An adult male (or late adolescent male) should be able to fully retract his foreskin without having any pain.

For some reason though, he may just prefer to not have his foreskin retracted. That's okay.

You'll have to ask him about it though to know what the deal is!

More info on phimosis;
http://www.patient.co.uk/showdoc/40000110/

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misskitty_79
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Well, I guess the whole thing is that I'm really not at all sure how to bring up the subject. I mean, we've been together for FOUR YEARS now. So, if I was going to say that there was something odd about his penis, I probably should have already said it, you know?
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Well you could tell him that you were reading about it online, and you wondered if maybe that was why he always wants his foreskin up.

It's okay to acknowledge that it's hard for you to bring this up to him too ... He might feel weird discussing his penis w/ you too! But it's okay ... Maybe he hasn't said anything because he thinks it's not an issue (and maybe it isn't!) or he thinks you'll think he's weird.

It might be an uncomfortable discussion, but it is going to be the only way to know the answers to your questions.

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