Are Vibrators, because they are being talked about, advertised and even being discussed on Oprah's Talk Show on the importance of teens and pre teens using them, going to become more popular than they are now? I am not sure if anyone saw her show or even see the advertisements for clitoral vibrators on tv but it seems like everyone is getting one.
Was anyone able to see the Oprah Talk Show last week where they were saying we should be getting one when we turn 14. The show was encouraging our moms to talk to us about masturbating and using them and that they should be the one buying us one to help explore our sexuality.
I have one and use it regularly so I think they are an important part of my sex life and what I do alone. They just seem to help with making me orgasm and when I seem to want sex and my bf isn't around, it satisfies my urge for sex. So isn't it a good idea to get people to start using them when they begin thinking about having sex?
What are the opinions of people on what was said on her show and about using them when we are teens?
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I haven't seen the show, though I want to give Oprah creds for saying those things if that is what they said. I think it would be a good idea if, sometime between twelve and fourteen, teens were taken vibrator shopping (if they wanted to go) by a parent and could pick out one that they'd like (this way one avoids the possible pitfalls of either buying a phallic vibrator and making a teenager think that you want to make penises a part of their sexuality even if they don't, or of buying a clitoral stimulator and then having a teenager be frustrated when they can't use it for penetration if they want to do so), with the offer left open for at least until they move out, and ideally everyone should have somebody they can go sex toy, lube, condom and other contraceptive acquiring with if they are too shy to go alone (and somebody to come with them to the clinic if they are having an abortion or getting STI tested). There's no real reason why somebody younger than 12 shouldn't be taken vibrator shopping if they want to go, we often masturbate from birth, and have been observed doing so in the womb.
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I think it depends on the relationship between the teen and their parents. I know I don't trust my parents or have a close relationship with them, and I never have, so I would most certainly not want them knowing how I prefer to masturbate.
I do think the social change that would have to take place for this to be normal would be a good thing, though.
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I think I should try encouraging my Mother to watch Oprah. Judging by thing Oprah has been challenging some very annoying beliefs held by my Mam. Eg> "Sex is bad bad bad, ANYTHING from making out to oral sex is a no-go. Maturbation? WHAT??!"
What she is unaware of (I hope ) is taht I maturbate relatively regularily, engage in sexual activities and lost my virgiinity so ... er... sorry mam!
I don't do it because of what she says, I do it because I want to. But I have always wanted to try a vibrator, but of course, with my family I don't think I could ever get one. :/
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