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miss_cali_gurl_superstar
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ok well i have a few question that i have been curious bout for a while... the first one is do guys care if a girl has pubes or do they like it shaved...also im a really small for my age...im 18.. and i wear a size 0.. but my boobs are double d's and they grew really fast so they have stretch marks do u think my bf would mind? he keeps wantin 2 have sex.. and i want 2 but thease things are standing in my way...HELP PLEASE!!!

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StrangePudding
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If your boyfriend really cares about you, and loves you for YOU, he will understand that pubic hair and stretch marks are part of your body. They are part of what makes you YOU, and he should be able to love all parts of you.

As for whether he prefers you clean or shaved, that is his personal preference. But no matter what he says, if you don't feel like shaving, don't. It's your body and, like I said, he should be able to accept you the way you are.

Too, the stretch marks are probably from puberty, at least two years ago, correct? If this is true, they're likely pretty faded and probably not as noticeable as you might think. We tend to view our own bodies much more critically than others. Your boyfriend might not even notice your stretch marks. He might even have some of his own, if he shot up quickly! (Mine does!)

Here's some links you might find useful. The first is the board's thread on shaving, and the second is a sex readiness checklist.

http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/1/t/003629.html
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/boyfriend/ready_or_not_the_scarleteen_sex_readiness_checklist

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miss_cali_gurl_superstar
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thanx alot!!

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Like Rosaline Spork said, your partner should accept your body the way it is, comments like "Oh, you have a scar there, I'm sorry if something bad happened" are fine, but "ur pubes r teh wrongz!" is not, nor are comments about stretch marks. If your partner makes derogatory comments about your looks, they aren't worth being with. Have they ever made a comment like that before, or is this worry coming from you (and y'know, widespread societal pressure)? You may find they are completely accepting and love your body and you just as you are (I certainly hope so).

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