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im a girl and ive been wanting to try anal sex lately, but my boyfriend is worried that it may be too tight for him and that it may hurt his penis. Is it possible for anal sex to hurt for a guy?
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It's definately possible for any kind of sex to hurt for a guy. When trying anal sex, it's important that the "receiver" needs to be super relaxed and ready. It's best not to start with a penis straight off--try toys and fingers first and see if that feels good, then move on.

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how could it hurt for a guy tho..like would it pull the skin back or something?

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How anal sex could hurt for a guy: while there aren't quite as many nerve endings in the penis as there are in the vagina and clitoris, the male genitals are still highly sensitive tissues, especially during sexual arousal. As SnailShells said, "It's definately possible for any kind of sex to hurt for a guy," and in many of the same ways that it's possible for sex to hurt for women, i.e. too much friction, not enough lubrication, skin being pulled or pinched in uncomfortable ways. Too, although our society denies primarily women a strong sense of sexual agency, it can actually be more difficult for men to talk about or even acknowledge sex they don't like or that doesn't work for them, since our society tells men that they should be ready for AND ENJOY any kind of sex at any time or they're not "real men", whatever that means.

Anal sex in particular can be tricky for both partners. The anal sphincter is a very strong, not-entirely-voluntary muscle, and the rectum does not self-lubricate in the same way that a mouth or vagina might (it does produce rectal mucus, but this developed to facilitate the excretion of waste and not specifically to facilitate repeated insertion). If you want to better understand your boyfriend's trepidation, try clamping down as hard as you can on your finger(s) with your anus (as SnailShells said, you want to start off with penetration by fingers and/or toys) and you'll see just how hard you can squeeze and how it might be uncomfortable or painful for a penis.

As with any kind of sexual activity, you want to make sure both you and your boyfriend are relaxed, aroused, and comfortable. You want to make sure you use plenty of (condom safe - anal sex carries a higher risk of STI transmission than does vaginal intercourse, so you still want to use a condom) lubricant. You want to use toys and/or fingers to explore anal penetration and learn what works and doesn't work for you before inserting a penis. Don't insert anything (finger, toy, penis) that has been in the rectum into the vagina without cleaning it first - the bacteria that live in the rectum of a perfectly healthy person can cause unpleasant and potentially dangerous infections if introduced to other parts of the body (like the mouth or vagina).

Despite the porn ads, you might want to check the site [link removed - please do not post links to websites with content restricted to 18+ users] - it has some solid basic info and a bunch of user-submitted tips from and for anal sex enthusiasts.

Take it slow, stop if something hurts or is uncomfortable for either one of you, and above all have fun!

[ 03-08-2009, 11:47 PM: Message edited by: blysse_norwood ]

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Sorry, the content of the site itself is not restricted to 18+ users (at least, they didn't have a disclaimer saying so), but there are ads for sites featuring 18+ content. I'll assume you checked the link and deemed it inappropriate, though, and not re-post it.

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sweet stuff
thanks for the info.

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Emily.

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