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So this happened about a month ago, but I kept forgetting to post about it here until now. It's not that serious, but something I am still curious about.

One time while my boyfriend & I were having sex, I was in the girl-on-top position, and it felt good. Nothing out of the ordinary. A few days later, we had sex again, in the same position. Only this time, it was a bit uncomfortable. It felt like he was hitting a wall every time I lowered myself down onto him, as if I was shallower or something (for lack of better word). At first I thought it was no big deal, but eventually it started bothering me. It wasn't an unbearable pain, but enough to make sex not-so-pleasurable, if you know what I mean. So we just moved into the missionary position and after doing that, I couldn't feel it as much.

So my question is, what happened there? How can a position that feels good one day be uncomfortable the next?

(Keep in mind, we were protected and we have no STDs, and I also wasn't on my period. We also haven't had sex since then because we're in a long-distance relationship, so I can't follow up on how sex feels now.)

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Because your arousal levels and fertility cycle can be very different from one day to the next, for starters. How aroused you are impacts how low or high your cervix is, as does where you are in your cycle. Arousal also impacts the length of your vagina.

There's more than that, but overall the deal just is that the "same" sex doesn't tend to feel the same every time you have it: there are a lot of variables which can cause differences.

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I've noticed the same thing Trizzy, so you're not alone! Sometimes "girl-on-top" does feel better than others. And thanks to Heather, I now have a better idea why. [Smile]
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