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SnailShells
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Just wondering, is it possible to request a diaphragm fitting during your first gyno visit? I read through the article on the main site and wasn't sure [Smile]

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It is, but sadly, some doctors don't do fittings anymore since hormonal methods became so popular; I'd call before and ask to make sure. Most MD's dealing with contraception have received training for it and should have a fitting set, which they can use to fit you during a pelvic exam without a fuss. [Smile]

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Thanks! [Smile]

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I had the hardest time dealing with this a while ago.

When I went into a clinic, I asked to be fitted for a diaphragm, and the nurse practitioner said no because:
1) I was a virgin and it would hurt too much,
2) they didn't have a kit, or didn't know where it was,
3) it was really such an outdated method anyway, and wouldn't I like to just take a pill?

She got really pushy about the pill and I ended up leaving with a bag full of medicine I'll never take.

I still haven't gotten fitted for a diaphragm, though I'm still decided on cervical barrier methods. I ordered the femcap, and got it, but haven't used it yet.

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I've actually heard quite a few stories from other young women who's doctors, for whatever reason, would not give them a diaphragm. Many said that their doctor questioned their ability to use it correctly and pushed the pill on them.

I was lucky enough to get a prescription without any fuss (though I encountered a pharmacist who wouldn't fill it... and I had to get the manager to make him give my my prescription back...), but I'm beginning to realize that it's pretty common to have problems getting fitted for a diaphragm.


Would anyone be up for starting a new topic (so we don't hijack this one) to talk about some questions about this:
Do you think doctors just don't trust young women to not get pregnant while using the diaphragm? And why the pill pushing?
Don't doctors understand that sometimes women don't fake want hormones in their body all the time?

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MJandDC
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I don't think it's right for a doctor to question a woman's ability to use a certain kind of birth control correctly, even if it's not a pill. It's not his place. It's kind of an insult really.

My nurse practitioner kept saying how easy the pill is, versus how difficult it is to use a diaphragm. She was really concerned about the idea that you have to plan ahead for intercourse with a diaphragm, and that you can't just go for it when you want it without being prepared. I was like, you are talking to a 24-year-old virgin. I think I have the self-control necessary to take a time-out and head to the bathroom to put a little device in. It was kind of insulting that she thought I couldn't handle that.

She kept saying the pill is foolproof. The thing is, though, I'm not a fool. I don't need a foolproof method. I need the best method for me and my body, and if it requires a little planning and self-control, so be it.

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Heather
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For anyone's future reference, whenever I am going somewhere new for a new diaphragm fitting, I'm just sure to make clear that is what I need when I am making my appointment. Some providers are not prepared to fit them, so to save myself a headache, I always check in advance.

This kind of experience is SO troubling, I agree. Especially since the pill is hardly foolproof (especially for younger women, whose typical use rates are actually a good deal lower than for those in their 20's). And in agreement with what is being said, absolutely, I find it really troubling when healthcare providers seek to influence patients with their own personal preferences -- not health concerns -- like this. Personally, if I encountered this, I'd be sending a letter.

atm1, I think that'd be an excellent topic if you want to start it. Especially since the "why" of some doctors really pushing hormonal methods -- even when they are methods a patient knows she does not want -- is a pretty big topic with a lot of legs.

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the topic is now up here http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/8/t/001269.html
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