I am 13, and me and my boyfriend have 'attempted' to have sex a few times. The first time we did it, as i was undressing he got really hard, so we jumped right into it. Ever since the first time we had sex, when ever he sees me, he gets a big erection. It's kind of embarassing, as when ever i'm with him, up it goes. I don't get it. All my boyfriends i have had in the past only get erections occasionaly, or when we are having sex. It is embarassing to go out in public with him, and i have tried talking to him about it, but he just says something cheezy, like 'i just love you to much', or 'you make me to horny for words.' Is there anything i can do to prevent it happening so often? I really love him, and i don't want it to get to me.
You know, this really isn't anything your boyfriend can control too much. It's also not a big deal. Guys get erections, that's just how it goes. There's no reason for you to feel embarrassed about that. And since it's not something your boyfriend can control, it's also not terribly fair for you to pressure him about that.
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I agree, he can't control it at all, so learn to deal with it. Unless he wears very tight pants it shouldn't be that noticeable.
I'd also like to say that having sex at your age is illegal, and if he is 2 years older than you he is a criminal and by law is committing statutory rape on a child when you engage in sex. Please always use condoms, get tested and go on birth control if you're going to have sex, I seriously doubt you want to get pregnant of an STD.
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Can I ask if some of why this makes you uncomfortable is because you feel like his erection is about him wanting sex (which it often isn't), or because you feel like his having one means you need to do something about it?
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