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I've been masturbating for about five years now, with no problem ever getting off. I'm now seeing my very first boyfriend, and after some fooling around, I found that I could no longer orgasm. I can barely feel clitoral stimulation at all. It's a little confusing actually, because the closest I've ever been to orgasm with my boyfriend has been through fingering ... and it wasn't really that close (not even oral sex feels as good as I imagined it would). I don't expect to orgasm when he does the things to me that I usually do to myself -- in fact I'm not expecting to get off at all, that's not the point of being with him sexually -- but it's getting a little bit frustrating that suddenly masturbation does nothing. My boyfriend has a kind of silly opinion about it, he said that he's glad I "need him to be pleasured", but when neither of us is able to make me orgasm ... (Actually, that's not true. I was able to achieve orgasm this week, but it seemed to take more effort than it was worth.)

I guess the point of this post is to ask if anyone has experienced anything similar. Will it always be this way? Will my own hands no longer do the trick? I've wanted a vibrator for awhile now, but I'm not comfortable owning one while still living with my parents, and it could be awhile before I move out. Advice?

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Hmm.. I think I've experienced something similar? Sometimes during masturbation, it will feel good at first, but then after a while it won't feel like much of anything. This is with my doing and sometimes my boyfriend.
With the clitoral stimulation.. could it be that your boyfriend isn't getting at the right spot? You guys should experiment and find what feels good for both of you and what you're both comfortable with. Just give it some time.. that's always worked for me.

If that doesn't work, trying giving your GYN a call. They always know what's best. :]

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That's true, I know I could give him some direction as to what I like. A tiny part of him not being able to make me orgasm, though, is that I'm not sure I'm quite ready to get off in front of him. I want to, but I don't. I just hate that I can't even have that to myself anymore.

While we're talking about gynecologists, how does one go about getting one? I suppose now is a good time, huh?

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Jase Watson
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Well, Im not going to sit here and force you against your will, but please know: For some guys it turns them on and makes them really happy to see you orgasm. How often do you masturbate? Perhaps your doing it to offten? It may also just be your body. Wait a bit, give it some time, and then start again. Are you aroused while trying to masturbate or your boyfriend tries to touch you? Just give it time. As for the vibrator, I can understand that. If it will be awhile before your out, you might want to consider finding a safe place to keep it. If you still enconter this problem, you might want to try using a vibrator. Some women are different in what gets them off. Thats not your fault. You just need the right touch, so to say ;p. I hope that you can get the sensation back [Smile] Good luck!

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Oh I know, he's even said that he would be turned on if I masturbated in front of him. That will just take time for me to be comfortable with! :]

I go through periods where I'll masturbate every night, but then stop altogether for a couple weeks. So I'm sure I haven't been doing it too much. I think maybe my body just needs time to calm down over the fact that someone else has started touching me, lol!

Thanks very much for all your help, you guys. [Big Grin]

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