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lozzy57
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Hey, I've just gone on the combined pill, and me and my boyfriend have both been tested for STIs (we went together - how cute! *rolls eyes*), and neither of us are having sex with other people. I really trust him, and think I'm ready to have sex without a condom with him but...

Is there anything I haven't thought of? Do I need to be more prepared? Do I need to... I don'tknow...

Just any info or moral support would be good right now...

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Heather
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Yay, an STI date! [Razz]

Well, we advise waiting a full cycle before doing that when it comes to pregnancy risks. Per STI risks, you just want to be sure you've waited around six months of being together with condom use before ditching condoms. Testing is the other part of that.

As well, it's just a matter of it you're both comfortable using the pill as a sole method. is that something you're both okay with?

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ASargent42
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(Mindmeld!! [Razz] )

[ 06-11-2008, 08:06 PM: Message edited by: ASargent42 ]

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lozzy57
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Mindmeld? I feel confused...

But awesome, thank you. Tbh, I'm a bit scared, it's a *really* big commitment, but I know he won't pressure me so it's cool!

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(Mindmeld just means that they wrote pretty much the same thing [Smile] )

I thought this might be helpful: When me and my boyfriend decided to condomless for the first time, we did so close to the timing of my withdrawl bleed. That way, I didn't have to wait longer to get it, and it wouldn't cause as much anxiety [Razz]

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Heather
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You also don't have to commit to this.

In other words, you can try it for a few times, and see how you feel: if you like having ejaculate running out of your vagina for a while for instance (some people don't), or how it can alter your vaginal pH for a few days, as well as if you're really okay with only using one method.

So, I'd frame it less as something you commit to, and more as something you both try and see how it goes, with the option to resume or go back to using condoms, depending.

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lozzy57
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Oh. I'd never thought of it that way. That's a really good point. Thank's for bringing that up. I'm deffo going to talk to him about it! Thank youu!

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