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poserxmeetsxme
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So I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend and we brought up the subject on hand jobs. The thought of me giving him one makes me happy, but I don't know if I can yet. It's been 2 months, and a part of me says its too early, but another part of me says its ok.

So a few questions. 1) What STI's can be given from him to me? We have never done anything with anyone else, so I presume there are no STI risks? 2) If I'm partially thinking it's a doubt in my mind about doing this, I shouldn't. But then the other part of me really wants to be intimate with him. Any advice?

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The STI risk with manual sex is very low. Using gloves will make it extra-safe, but just washing hands thoroughly will also do.

However, just because you've never been physical with anyone else does not mean that you have no STIs. So, before you do go on to more risky activities, you should look into getting tested regardless.

And I am going to link you to a couple of articles:
Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
Safe, Sound & Sexy: A Safer Sex How-To

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poserxmeetsxme
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thanks.

I think for now I've decided against it, just because I know I truly 100% don't want to do anything sexual with him yet.

I kinda also think the only reason I wanted to do it was to compete with my friend and her bf. But then I realized sex and relationships should never be a race or competition. So I'm going to take it slow.

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deleted for inappropriate content

[ 12-03-2007, 07:08 AM: Message edited by: JamsessionVT ]

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reonz
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That's terrible.
I hope this comment bumps this thread so a volunteer can take action regarding the comment above.

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(We're on it- just gotta wait for a mod assigned to this forum to get to this one. This guy's spammed all over the boards tonight.)

[ 12-02-2007, 08:17 PM: Message edited by: Leabug ]

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poserxmeetsxme
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I'm guessing I don't even want to know.
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