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Alright so..I'm 20 and, try as I might, I can't seem to masturbate. I've tried many times, and nothing feels good in the least bit. Could it be that mentally, I'm not letting myself get into it? Or, (and this might sound stupid), I ride horses a lot...could all that friction have caused "numbness"? I can't imagine that it would, considering how many women ride horses and I don't think that THAT many women would have that issue. Any advice as so something that might be able to help ease my mind about it? I mean...if a 6 year old can do it, why can't I? lol


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Here's a pretty handy Scarleteen article on masturbation to start with. [Smile]
Is Masturbation Ok? (Yep)

You might find this one useful, too.
Sexual Response & Orgasm: A User's Guide

It is possible that you could have some kind of mental block about masturbating, especially if you were reared with sexual shaming (ie: Masturbation is wrong and sinful!)

However, if it's physically uncomfortable, that's probably a sign that you just need to get to know your body better and find out what works for you. For example, if you've just been encorporating clitoral stimulation (which some women don't find to be comfortable) and it's not working out then try exploring different areas of your body. Your sexuality and sexual sensations aren't situated entirely in your genitals, but in your whole body.

I know personally I also kind of have a problem with "numbness" and I know that if I'm not engaging my whole body and my mind, masturbation's just not going to feel all that great to me.

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(Just to clarify, riding horses would not cause any loss of sensation in your genitals. It's far more likely that some of the things Gwaihir mentioned are the source of your troubles.)


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I think it's worth pointing out that you can masturbate -- masturbation is the action of self-stimulation in a sexual way. Orgasm from masturbation seems to be what you're concerned isn't happening for you, and for most people that's a matter of comfort and learning what feels good to your body. Experiment and have fun, it'll come in time (and in the meantime, it's a good way to spend some quality time with yourself) [Smile]


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