I've recently lost my virginity, and thus, started having sex on a regular basis, with my boyfriend. Before we started having sex, he would tell me that he loved to have sex for hours on end, and often..which seemed sort of perfect for me, as I find that I am -not- satisfied after just a few minutes. The only thing is..he isnt living up to his hype. I have zero problem stopping when he wants to stop, obviously, but then he asks me if I'm satisfied..and the one time I've told him the truth, that no I'm not, he was -very- upset. I'm starting to feel really awful that I just want to keep going for such long periods of time, and he sort of makes that seem like a crime when I bring it up..like its odd for me to feel that way. It is really all that uncommon to want to continue for long periods of time, to continue being aroused after an orgasm? I understand that stamina varies from person to person..but how can I make it that both he and I are having good experiences?
To be frank, I'm not surprised you're unsatisfied if the only thing you guys do is have vaginal intercourse. Many, many women do not feel satisfied if that's the only activity done.
Have you two ever tried mixing up sexual activities? Perhaps throwing in some masturbation for you, if he's too tired to continue with things? After all, there's nothing stopping you from taking your satisfaction into your own hands!
As well as the suggestions above, have you ever tried the stop-start technique? (sorry to anyone if Im not allowed to put this up here, I wasnt sure) Whenever he feels like he's about to come, then just stop what you're doing, then wait a few minutes before starting again. That often makes it last longer, so you'd have more chance of being satisfied.
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