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BlueEyedBeauty
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Ok, So I am confused as to when a guy can stop having sex. I always thought it was until an erection stops, but does that mean after a guy comes as well? I have had sex with only two people before, one was expereinced the other one is my current bf. The one with experience, we had sex for a while but we also used a condom. My bf pulls out, and we don't have actual intercourse sex for more than 5 minutes until he pulls out. He doesn't use a condom, but I'm on the pill
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liancat
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Hi, I'm new :>

Don't know if I understand your question correctly .. as a male I'll try answer =) .. sex continues as long as there is an erection involved and if a guy has an erection after ejaculating sex can go on! for however long. Keeping an erection has to do with testosterone levels, stress, many other reasons. Cortisol is released after the male orgasm that makes us want to sleep. It's an adrenal hormone (flight fight reaction) and it will cause constriction of the blood vessels that fill the penis - making the erection stop. Sex for 5mins.. if you want it for more than 5! get your bf to sleep and exercise more. Keeping an erection has to do with hormones and neurotransmitters. Not to get to technical but has to do with peripheral - autonomic nervous system and the brain releasing acetylcholine --> relaxes blood flow into penis and constricts outflow.
It may sound funny but if you want your man to go on and last longer than 5mins get make him look into your eyes during sex. Us men - our brain switches off during sex *chuckle* we don't think and things kinda do their own thing. But if you get us to "concentrate" on 'you' - things will last longer than 5 =-)
ciao

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BlueEyedBeauty
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thanks for the info, and yea it helped. It wasn't that he couldn't keep one, it was just that he did not want a risk of pregnancy, therefor he wpuld pull out. Also the looking in eyes worked. I realized instead of closing my eyes, if I opened them on occasion and chuckled and told him I loved him, it was more amazing.

Also another question, he says having sex tire men out, and even having it once tires them out. So how can some males have sex twice in a day? Is this something we have to work up to?

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Leabug
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Just for the record, withdrawal isn't really an effective birth control method. Pre-ejaculate can also contain sperm, so any unprotected sex presents a risk. Besides, there's really no need to do it anyway since you're on BC pills, right? (Assuming you've both been tested for STDs.)

As for your other question, that really does vary from person to person (and even then, day to day)- some people are pooped after one session of intercourse and are done for the day, whereas others are good to go again after a little rest.

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