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purplerose
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I'm a virgin and my boyfriend had sex like once with a ex girlfriend. I think that sex may happen in the near future (with protection, of course) part of me would like to know that he is clean before-hand, but how can I bring it up without offending him?
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Hmm... I'm far from the expert on this one. However, a few important things to keep in mind are:

Try to talk about it in a non-sexual context, when you're both relaxed
You could offer to go in and get tested too -say you want to do it together. Virgins can in fact have some STDs if they've so much as kissed someone, or if your parents carried anything.
Also, keep in mind that you have every right under the sun to be concerned about your own health, and that of potential future partners. So he really should not be getting offended about something like you asking for him to get tested. In addition, he should want to know whether or not he has something, so that if he did, he could take care of it appropriately.

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ok, thank you once again for your time and quick reply iheartdc, you're awesome! [Big Grin] but does it cost alot to get tested & like what do we tell the docters we want to get tested for? sorry to answer you with a question.

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Here's some basic information on ST testing: Testing, Testing….

A full screening can cost a lot to a little (and sometimes nothing) depending n where you get it done and what your income is. Are you insured right now? If so, your insurance may cover the cost of your testing. If not, sliding-scale clinics like Planned Prenthood or city/town clinics may be a good toption for you and your boyfriend.

And you simply both tell the doctors you want a full STI screening, for all the currently known STIs.

(Also, to be clear, it's not just intercourse that puts a person at risk of STIs. Oral sex, anal sex and even manual sex can and foten do present risks, so remember that latex barrier use is one of the nost important aspects of safer sex, especially if you're already engaging in some sexual activities now.)

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thanks for your reply heather. i'm going to read what you gave me the link for now. i dont think my insurance would cover that kinda thing? i've never heard of either of those, so you can't just like go to a normal clinic and get tested? sorry to answer with a question for you as well. thanks for your time! [Smile]
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Not sure what you mean by a "normal" clinic?

Do you mean a general walk-in clinic? if so, you often can: if there's one you normally use, you can just call and ask if they provide STI testing and gynecological care.

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thanks for the reply back. yeah like one that you go to all different kinds of appointments for, sorry for the confusion lol. i go there for my pap smear testing, so would she be able to do the test for my boyfriend and me?

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If you get a pap smear there, probably. So, best bet? Just ring them up and ask.

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