i'm 14, soon to be 15, and i've had sex only once before. and i think i should start going to a gynoclogist. i talked to my mom about going and she said she thinks i should start going after i've had sex for the first time. she doesn't know that i've had sex. and i don't plan on telling her. but she told me if i want to go, she'll make an appointment. the problem is if i go to a gynocologist and they find out i'm not a virgin, i'm afraid of them telling my parents. i don't want my mom or dad to know. i know they would be really dissapointed in me. but i know it's time to start going. so what should i do?
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Well, how about talking to your Mom about the fact that it's generaly best for young women to start yearly gynecological care not once they first start having sex, but when they start menstruating?
Mind, there are services women who aren't sexually active don't need from the GYN: pap smears, STI screenings, birth control discussion and prescription. But even women who aren't sexually active have working reproductive systems where things can go wrong for many reasons which have nothing to do with partnered sex, so basic exams are still advised.
Another option is to get your GYN care privately, from a sliding-scale clinic like Planned Parenthood or an independent sexual health clinic. You may feel better about that anyway in terms of your privacy, and feeling like it's more safe that way (even though any doctor is obliged to keep your information private).
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