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Rozyo
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Well hi to you people

yeah well my quiestion is that when me and my bf have sex we are both eroused quite alot and i was wondering, why is it that i have alot of pain while "doing it" but it felt good.. after guards am usually sore for 1 whole day sometimes 2.
i asked some of my friends but they told me that they dint really have any pain as they got used to it. so i was wondering is this normal? [Confused]

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LilBlueSmurf
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No, painful intercourse is never normal.

Are you using condoms and lubrication? When was your last GYN exam?

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bestbefore1984
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I also have a similar problem (wasn't sure if I should post a new topic or not). When my partner and I have intercourse, my 'area' sometimes hurts after or during, to the point that we've had to stop because of it. It's usually worse if we've been going for a while, but not always. Then when it's over I have a lot of redness and swelling, with a sensation similar to rugburn. Pretty painful and lasts 1 or 2 days. What could be causing this and is there anything I can do? Thanks!!
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Heather
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Take a look at this: From OW! to Wow: Identify the causes of Painful Vaginal Sex and Kick the Pain to the Curb.

Anything in there apply to you?

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bestbefore1984
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Not really... I actually read that a couple weeks ago! Could it possibly just be that we're too 'enthusiastic'? We've been together about a year, and I'm on the pill, so maybe it's a lubrication issue? Thanks again.
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Heather
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I'm confused.

You say nothing on that list there applies, but then in asking if this could be a lubrication issue, am I understanding that you aren't using extra lubricant (which is one thing in that list)?

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Rozyo
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thanks for all you guys replies maybe it is the lubrication thing.. no we dont used an extra lubricant.... or condoms...thanx u all ^_^

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Surferchk07
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quote:
Originally posted by Rozyo:
thanks for all you guys replies maybe it is the lubrication thing.. no we dont used an extra lubricant.... or condoms...thanx u all ^_^

Wait your not using condoms?
You know about the risk of STD/I's right? Have you or your partner been checked out in the last 6 months. You may want to think about using condoms just to protect you from those issues.

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gothicguy
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Leaving aside the question of condoms/STIs - get some lubricant and use it generously!

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CondomMan
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quote:
Originally posted by Rozyo:
thanks for all you guys replies maybe it is the lubrication thing.. no we dont used an extra lubricant.... or condoms...thanx u all ^_^

You mentioned that you aren't using condoms or lubrication ... are you using any form of birth control? If you think sex is painful now, think about how painful unexpected pregnancy will be, both physically and emotionally. [Eek!] Not to be rash, but I think if you're not using birth control, you have bigger issues to worry about than just uncomfortable sex...

That said, the most common reasons that sex is uncomfortable is due to lack of lubrication, arousal or communication.

[ 02-24-2007, 04:38 PM: Message edited by: CondomMan ]

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Heather
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(Hey: let's do our users a favor please, and not presume they're having sex without a birth control method because that method isn't condoms? Many of our uses are on hormonal birth control. While that doesn't address STI concerns, stern warnings about pregnancy because a user doesn't use condoms aren't often in order, okay?

Too, as we ask in the guidelines, we like to avoid a lot of "me too" posting that can make a posted feel ganged-up on. In oter words, she's already been informed before the last two posts about the need for lubrication and linked to the Ow to Wow piece. Thanks.)

[ 02-24-2007, 04:17 PM: Message edited by: Heather ]

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Well put, thanks for the friendly amendment.

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