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Hijol
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Hiya Scarleteen. [Smile]

Anyway, just out of nowhere...I'm just starting to worry about STD's when I grow up.

I'm a virgin, and I personally would like to keep my virginity until I marry. I need to make sure that I really love my partner, and I think that sex before marriage is just not the thing for me. I'm hoping to do it around 25-30....then get kids. [Smile]

When I'm just thinking about sex, I worry about the dieseases that could happen. What should you be cautious about when having sex between 2 virgins? What kind of STD's are there, and how do they naturally occur? I just don't want to end up with some stupid diesease in my body. What's there to worry or think about?

Please help, thanks.

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Heather
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Here's some basics to start with:

A Quickie STD/STI Risk Assessment
Herpes & HPV

Though those links, you can also look at the index for The Infection Section and read all about the most common STIs.

Bear in mind that the chances of you having sex at 25-30 with a partner who never has as well are remarkably slim. But if that WAS the case, so long as that person had never had ANY intimate contact -- even deep kissing -- with others, the risks would be very minimal.

All the same, it'd be smart to practice safer sex for the first six months just like anyone else.

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Hijol
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Hmm. thanks for the article.

Practice safe sex when I'm married?
So as in...once I get married, I should have sex with my wife with condems, and try it a few times?

I want 2-3 children, but I don't want a risk of diseases.

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Safer sex during marriage is pretty much the same as safer sex with ANY partner:

You and ANY sexual partner (be it a girlfriend or a casual partner or a wife) should be using condoms until you have both received two full STI screenings, 6 months apart, and continue having yearly STI screenings after that.

When you're married, safer sex is important especially when you are wanting to have children, since STIs can affect a fetus, and when you're not at a point in your life where you and your wife want to become pregnant? Contraception is good to use at that point, too, for obvious reasons.

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Hijol
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It's wise to get an STI screening with my gf or fiance, when were actually into the long-term relationship, right? I have to be careful about the risks.

If I don't really understand this stuff by the age of 25, IF, are chances that my partner will understand? I should use condems for 6 months in my marriage?

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Practice safe sex when I'm married?
So as in...once I get married, I should have sex with my wife with condems, and try it a few times?


To clarify, "practicing" safer sex means carrying it out.

Not "pratice" as in "practice makes perfect" [Smile] .

I should use condems for 6 months in my marriage?

You and any monogamous partner should use condoms until you've both had two clear STI screens, 6 months apart.

Then you know you don't have any STIs, so can drop the condoms if you want to.

However, you'll still need to use some form of birth control until you're ready to have children.

If I don't really understand this stuff by the age of 25, IF, are chances that my partner will understand?

OK, what is it you're not feeling clear on right now? Let's see if we can sort it out.

And in a marriage (or any other long-term relationship), you need to be able to communicate with your partner, about this and a whole lot of other stuff [Smile] .

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Hijol
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Ooh... thanks.

I'm not so educated on this sex sort of thing, so I'm just hoping that my partner understands this stuff, and knows about sex. [Razz]

What kind of STD's are there, and how are they spread?

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Heather
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(Haven't read those links yet, eh? Scroll back up to my first response and have a look.)

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The two articles Heather linked you pretty much says it all. Just retake a look at those two and if you have any more questions after reading those, just ask.

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Hijol
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OH. The links, right. Sorry, I guess I just passed it really quickly. Thanks.

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