when I'm having sex with my boyfriend, I don't orgasm. it's weird, it feels really good, but so much different from when I masturbate. i don't know what an orgasm should feel like but it seems as though outer stimulation is when i kind of orgasm. however, it's really short, it only takes up to 20 seconds, maybe less, for me to reach the climax. my boyfriend asks me sometimes if i got off, but i don't know what to tell him. when he fingers me, i don't feel anything, only when he touches my clit, but nothing inside feels sexual. the times he's done oral, i've orgasmed. i just don't know what to tell him when he asks if i got off. i don't hold it against him if i don't get off, i don't know if i did get off and i don't know when to stop having sex. that sounds a little weird. also after sex, there are a lot of fluids that come out, is that normal?
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A good majority of women don't orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone; clitoral stimulation is the most common avenue of orgasm.
Maybe share these facts with your boyfriend, and ask if you can integrate more activities that feel good to you? Sex can be great, but it can be a lot better if it isn't thought of as the main course, so to speak.
It's normal to produce a lot of natural lubricant during sex if you're highly aroused. Add into the mix any additional lubricant or semen, and sex can get to be messy buisness.
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