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kellie
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im 14. me and my bf who iv been with for 8 months, we've been having sex for about 4 months quite alot from about febuary to june unprotected , none of us have s.t.d's so we're ok on that. and then he went away for a few months and he's just got back and we've started having sex again. i never got pregnant before when we wer having sex so do you think i'll b ok this time? can i not have kids or something or was i just really lucky coz we did do it ALOT before
could you please tell me what you think

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logic_grrl
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It means you've been very lucky, assuming you're not trying to get pregnant.

Just because you haven't got pregnant in four months doesn't mean you have any problems with fertility.

Doctors don't start checking for fertility problems until a couple have been trying to conceive (including tracking ovulation and aiming to have sex during the most fertile times) for a year or two years.

But your luck could run out at any time.

So if you don't want to get pregnant you need to start using contraception right away.

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Tillymac1
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To be blunt, you shouldn't be having sex at 14. If you weren't having sex at such a young age, you wouldn't have any pregnancy/infertile worries.

You should also really think about using condoms.

Note: when I said you wouldn't have worries "at a young age", I didn't mean that older women don't have worries with sex.

[ 09-12-2006, 09:32 AM: Message edited by: Tillymac1 ]

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thathollygirl
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Tilly--I think it is unfair of you to assume that she is unready for sex simply because of her age. Being young is not the same as being immature.

However, if you are having unprotected sex and don't think anything will come of it, it may be that you really are not ready, and need to examine why you are having sex and how to do it more safely. You might want to have a look at the the sexual readiness checklist as well as the safer sex article. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, and all that.

[ 09-12-2006, 10:26 AM: Message edited by: thathollygirl ]

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Tillymac1
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"However, if you are having unprotected sex and don't think anything will come of it, it may be that you really are not ready,"

Which is her problem and which is just about why she probably wasn't ready.

Plus she didn't seem at all too sure about sexual facts, bless her, which I am pretty sure one would need to be aware of before having sex.

And its illegal to have sex at 14.

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While all that's true, it would have been useful to include in your original post. [Smile] We like to keep a friendly atmosphere here, since written forms of communication can be grossly misinterpreted. So, be aware of that when posting in the future. Thanks!

For kellie: There is a lot of validity to Tillymac's arguments. In the UK, the age of consent is 16. You are 14, and therefore unable to legally consent to sexual activity. Doing so can put you and your partner at great risk of legal reprecussions. These are not minor, either: a sexual offense conviction will follow either of you for the rest of your lives, and bar you from working a myriad of jobs, a lot of them with children.

For future reference, then, check out what hollygirl linked you. They're excellent resources for you, and you should definantly take them in to consideration.

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