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my boyfriend says he likes it when i talk dirty to him and he also says that i don't do it at all. this is because i don't know how. i've been talking to him about this, actually i'm talking to him right now. i guess i need to be more detailed. how do i talk dirty? this is such a weird question. i guess the problem is, when he asks me what i want to do to him, i don't have much to say because i'm not detailed AT ALL! help if you can.
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haha, one of my friends recommended getting drunk because that worked for him. however funny that is, it is not an option. just in case one of you were to say that.
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Talking dirty requires a person to be comfortable saying certain things that society tells us aren't appropriate in polite company.

If you're not comfortable saying certain things, then don't say them. Otherwise, it comes out really awkward and that's just unsexy.

Otherwise, start small. instead of focusing on talking "dirty", learn to be more verbal during sex. State clearly what it is you want and what you like. It's sad how many women can't bring themselves to say, "Oh yes, more of that!" or "No, please stop doing that." But if they learn to communicate during sex, they can improve their sex lives dramatically. Here's your problem: you are unable to clearly say what it is you want. You have some sort of block that keeps you from conveying those ideas. You need to work past that.

Once you get the hang of talking during sex in general, then you can add things to your vocabulary. Start small, like referring to your body parts with vulgar language. Then go back to the idea of communicating to your partner what it is you want to do, and translate that to rated-R talk. Work your way up to expletives as needed. That way, you combine the ability to communicate with your partner, with whatever dirty thing he really wants to hear.

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and no, it's a pretty stupid idea to be on a teen website telling people to get drunk.

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haha, i was joking, as was my friend. computers aren't the best way to communicate emotion. sorry bout that.
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