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isabelle
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I had sex with my bf and my stomach really hurt afterwards, hes pretty big and I'm very very small so I'm wondering if its possible for him to maybe go too far inside me and hurt me or am I just sensitive
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cool87
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Yeah, it is possible that if he goes too far inside you it may hurt you. Why ? Because he could hit your cervix which is really sensitive for some women and might cause pain if hit.

And as for penis size, really, don't worry about it. There's no such thing as a too small vagina. The vagina during arousal expands to accomodate anything that is being inserted. It can let pass a baby's head so why not a penis ? To date, I haven't seen a penis the size of a baby's head so you don't have to worry. And I don't think your boyfriend makes an exception.

If he can't get inside you or has difficulties doing it, just look for other reasons beside your vagina being too small.

Are you fully aroused ? Do you use lubricant ? Do you really want to have sex ? Do you have fear ? (fear that it may hurt ?) Because fear is a inhibitor to arousal and may tensed up your vagina muscles, therefore making it harder for penetration. From your posts, you seem really worried about the pain so maybe you're not yet ready to have sex ?

And you say that he hurts you. Is he going too rough ? If so, maybe he could go a little slowler ? Have you told him that it was hurting you ?

As for your stomach, it is not common to have stomach ache after sex.That needs to be checked by a physician or a gyno. Have you gone to the gyno lately ? If not, maybe that would be a great start.

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isabelle
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my bfs penis can fit it fine thats not the problem at all its that sometimes it feels like his penis goes so far inside me it hurts and I dont know what to do about that, thats what I need help with , thank you!
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wobblyheadedjane
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If it's hurting because it's going too far, it's likely he is bumping up against your cervix. All that can be done to fix this is that you're both aware of it, and careful to not penetrate too deep. Cool87 was actually on the money that waiting until you experience full arousal will help with this, because along with the vagina expanding and lubricating, the cervix also lifts out of the way somewhat.

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2cool4u
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Is it possible to hit organs? I mean if someone has a big penis is it possible to push some organs around?
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No. If you look at a diagram of a woman's anatomy, any object being inserted into the vagina would stop at the opening of the cervix, which is very small. The only time the cervix really opens is pre-birth, before the baby enters the vagina; the cervix dialates to about 10cm then.

But you won't see any shifting of the stomach or intestines, nothing like that.

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2cool4u
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So i guess it is just an expression that women use maybe?
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Personally, I've never heard it before. But there isn't any fact in it.

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